you know in retrospect it’s weird that the splatooniverse has a band called “the squid sisters” when, like… they Are squids. that’s like if the real world had a band called “the human league”
SCREAMING CRYING ABSOLUTELY WRECKED THIS RUINED ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! STANFORD!!!!!!!!!!!! STANLEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TWO SIDES OF THE SAME COIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
transmisogyny and transphobia has done such a number on feminism and the fact that its bled into the mainstream is actually oustanding……… if someone in 2014 said that women are biologically and intellectually weaker than men thered be a buzzfeed article mocking them in the hour, now it’s like. policy.
I think one thing people forgot about terfs is how RACIST they are towards women of color (god forbid be a trans woman of color) and how those people uphold white supremacist views of gender.
women of color being hypermasculinized is not a new thing. it’s happened for decades, it’s just it’s been brought to light more with how other white women, especially those who wear the feminist label, throw these women of color, MAINLY BROWN AND BLACK WOMEN, under the bus and dehumanize them. as a black person this is nothing new to me, it’s just gross to see this as an ongoing issue. its transmisognistic and has roots in misogynoir.
as a black queer person, saying this to my white queers, you gotta understand that like, this goes beyond just transphobia/queerphobia and is specifically rooted in racism/anti blackness. you gotta be able to point out the racism too when it comes to specific issues like this.
I hate how much of the feminism tag is overrun by terfs. Feminism is for everyone, bitches.
Since the terfs have found this, I just want to say:
Enjoy your sorry, bigoted lives. You are the bane of women everywhere and I eagerly await the day you rot in the ground.
Get fucked and enjoy the view from my blocklist.
You think you’re such a feminist that you call other women bitches and wish them the worst, It’s obvious that you only care about me. For people like you, I am always glad that trans people are very prone to die either because someone kills you or you do it yourselves.
This is what she originally said:
A real feminist wouldn’t tell somone to “go suck a dick.”
Terfs are just high school bullies who never grew out of wanting a power trip. Y'all always wanna claim it’s only ever trans people who threaten violence and wish the worst, but then you turn around and say shit like this.
I hate how much of the feminism tag is overrun by terfs. Feminism is for everyone, bitches.
Since the terfs have found this, I just want to say:
Enjoy your sorry, bigoted lives. You are the bane of women everywhere and I eagerly await the day you rot in the ground.
Get fucked and enjoy the view from my blocklist.
You think you’re such a feminist that you call other women bitches and wish them the worst, It’s obvious that you only care about me. For people like you, I am always glad that trans people are very prone to die either because someone kills you or you do it yourselves.
This is what she originally said:
A real feminist wouldn’t tell somone to “go suck a dick.”
Terfs are just high school bullies who never grew out of wanting a power trip. Y'all always wanna claim it’s only ever trans people who threaten violence and wish the worst, but then you turn around and say shit like this.
The Sims 4 gave polyamory functionality, custom pronouns, the ability to customize your sims reproductive alignment despite their body type, and a pride flag you can hang on the walls with an intersex flag option
But still no ability* to make a sim with breasts and a beard at the same time bc the “female” body base can’t have a beard and a “male” body base can’t have breasts. Because in the end, there are Two Sexes Only and intersex ppl are dumb for wanting the most basic rep without needing to beg
If you’re autistic, your special interest is there to bring you joy and meaning, not to somehow become your “special autism talent” which makes up for you being disabled. Don’t let ableists imply otherwise.
ok im going to start the magnus archives i spent 2.5 hours listening to someone tell me about them yesterday and it has pushed me to finally listen to it so . okay
this shits crazy whats freaking happening
🙀 <- my reaction to all this information
rip to john i suppose ?
i’ll be real i think elias can do no wrong that’s just my opinion all the evidence refutes this but i dont really care i think he can do not wrong. elias call me 🤙
No one did better than random chance, even though they only included people in the study who are experienced with astrology and stated that they expect themselves to do better than random chance
They gave every astrologer a set of 50 things about a person and 5 birth charts to choose from. They weren’t even coming up with the chart themselves!
After taking the test, most thought they nailed it. Zero out of 152 did better than 5 out of 12. None nailed it
Astrologers who rated themselves highly experienced (“world class experts”) did the same or worse as those who said they have limited experience. Both performed the same as random chance
No one did better than random chance, even though they only included people in the study who are experienced with astrology and stated that they expect themselves to do better than random chance
They gave every astrologer a set of 50 things about a person and 5 birth charts to choose from. They weren’t even coming up with the chart themselves!
After taking the test, most thought they nailed it. Zero out of 152 did better than 5 out of 12. None nailed it
Astrologers who rated themselves highly experienced (“world class experts”) did the same or worse as those who said they have limited experience. Both performed the same as random chance
could you imagine being a man, a sis gender man, who is really into sounding other men. It's just the only way for you to get off really. But one day you meet a man that you really like, and you just connect with him on a whole other level. And you guys finally get to the point where not only are you in the bedroom with each other, but you're starting to get more open with each other too. About all the things like. The only issue is, is that this man is transgender. He does not have a penis he has never pursued any sort of bottom surgery. So he still has the whole set, the labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres. And he also has a urethra. Now he's willing to indulge in your special weird little thing. You're sounding. And you guys finally get to the bedroom and you have your little sounding pole or whatever it is they use. But you realize some thing very quickly. Do you know where the clitorises you know where the clitoris is, but where… Is the urethra? Riddle me this Batman
i’ve tried answering this ask in three different ways and each time it deleted whatever i added. labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres. Every time i try to find a new angle to work on this answer with i read another sentence that makes me wince so hard i forget 3/7ths of the english language. labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres. i literally am trying to think of any kind of response but verbally i keep repeating it. “labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres.” it’s like a spell. it’s fucking addicting. it’s the only way i know a human being sent it because that was for fucking sure speech to text happening right there for a single sentence. labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres.
hey. You should support trans women more than you hate terfs. You should support trans men more than you hate radfems. You should support nonbinary people more than you hate conservatives. You should support intersex people more than you hate bio-essentialists.
There's something that really rubs me the wrong way about the statement of "transmascs can benefit from male privilege" - not because it's false, but because it requires the individual pass as a cis man. There can't be a chance in hell they're clocked and they have to be quiet about their identity and if other queers can't understand how traumatic it honestly is to pretend you're cis to be respected or even not get fucking hate crimed (and this can go for any trans people, not just transmascs), then I don't think they're ever going to fully grasp why using that statement as a way to shut down other trans people is, at best, ethically hazy.
“If men had periods/got pregnant, the world would be so different” actually nothing would change because they already do and the world still hates and oppresses us for it, but thanks for letting me know that you not only don’t care about our struggles, but see our bodies as divine punishment for our male identity! How progressive of you.
countries will be like “nooooo our birth rate is falling exponentially and it’s effecting our economy” and immigrants will be like “hey can you let us in so we can boost your economy and fill your empty jobs and raise our children here” and inevitably the country is like “the only thing worse than a large scale collapse of our population is letting foreigners live here”
America’s immigration policies are difficult enough but I read the immigration policies for some countries and it is batshit insane. they’re straight up like “we hate disabled people, we hate people who don’t speak our language, if you don’t have a $85k a year salary lined up for you, we don’t want you to move here. if by some miracle you jump through all the hoops and move here, it will take you 20 years to obtain citizenship and during that time we will not rent to you because you’re a foreigner.” damn bitch. fuck you.
I think we need to disambiguate “we.” Here is my suggestion:
* We - The speaker and the listener
* Wu - The speaker, the listener, and someone else
* Wo - The speaker and someone else, but not the listener
* Wa - The speaker and Waluigi
screaming. jumping up and down. EXCLUSIVE VS INCLUSIVE WE. i have been on both sides of not being able to tell the difference between, like, ‘WE won the lottery! let’s party!!!’ and ‘WO won the lottery, but YOU didn't’ and the like SO many times yall! also systems
i think we should bring this back (with some amendments ofc) if we ever needed an “internet etiquette” for the younger generations, now is the moment to remind them. purity culture kills fandom
Don’t Like, Don’t Read (DL;DR), Your Kink is not My Kink And That’s OK (YKINMKATO) and Ship and Let Ship
I would like to present a counter-argument
“The Master’s Quest: Meet Annabella” was published nearly 4 years ago
There is no porn of it
There is no Fandom
There are no genderbent versions of any of the characters
No one ships any of the characters with anyone
There is no AU
I’ve done a shitty job promoting this book, by probably most people’s standards; but I’ve still sold maybe 200 copies. I genuinely have mentioned it a number of times on this blog though. Despite the fact probably no one reading this will know what I’m talking about.
My point is, I’m literal living proof that the internet is wrong and has been for years.
I have defeated the internet through sheer power of “I’m bad at selling and people don’t want to be advertised to”
So I win. I beat rule 34 and every other rule on that list. I win and the entire internet loses
I had a former manager named Craig who once football-tackled a customer that was assaulting me to get her away from me. Also when Susan the bitchass evangelical other manager started badgering me to join her in a prayer circle to make me straight again, Craig jumped in and said “SURE there’s lots of people here that need prayer!” took her hands and, loud enough for the entire store beseeched the lord with: “OH GOD OUR LORD PLEASE HELP SISTER SUSAN HERE LEARN TO PRACTICE HER FAITH WITH GRACE AND LOVE THOSE DIFFERENT THAN HERSELF. ”-AND IF YOU CAN’T SWING THAT, GET HER NOSE OUT OF EVERYONE ELSE’S BUSINESS AND ASS OUT TO THE LOADING DOCK THE PROVEN WINNERS TRUCK IS HERE.“
So like. Craig is actually good for the job.
Important Craig update, I cannot confirm it but we have a witness for him being good for it
you can make the comment if you wish. this is not necessarily a nsfw blog but i am horny 90% of the time recently and so by proxy my blog is horny 90% of the time (i think that’s how it works)
was playing “fetch” with the ocean today by tossing stones into it and watching them wash back up with the tide a few meters away, and it got me thinking about grief and the things we carry with us even after we lose them
Folks have got to understand that they probably aren’t messed up by some Secret Big Trauma that they just can’t remember; but rather by a million tiny microtraumas that they do mostly remember but don’t even register as traumatic because nobody actually understood that these things would cause trauma, much less stack on each other over the years.
Whether you’re carrying one big rock or a big ol’ bucket of sand, it’s going to weigh on you just as much.
This is why psychologists have started taking more of an interest in CPTSD in the last 10-15 years. What most people know as PTSD is a response to a single, intensely traumatic event (or even a series of events). However, CPTSD (chronic post-traumatic stress disorder) is caused by living for years in a situation where your nervous system cannot catch a break. Even if nothing huge ever happened to you, you always had to be on guard for a thousand little things that could and did happen.
After years and years of this, your nervous system gets “stuck” in an activated threat response. It never really lets you rest, and if this started when you were a kid, you may not develop a lot of neural pathways that you should have, because your brain was too focused on keeping you safe to bother with little things like “genuine human connection” and “interpersonal attachment.”
No lie, Complex PTSD/CPTSD is HUGE.
If you are disabled, if you are queer, if you are chronically ill, if you are the survivor of a toxic but not abusive relationship, if you grew up or lived under the threat of harm but no “actual” harm (or “very little” harm) was done, you may have CPTSD that isn’t getting caught because CPTSD looks different from PTSD.
At the risk of falling into a trivialization trap, a lot of things you may not perceive as traumatic actually are. I was embarrassed for a long time in both group and individual therapy to say anything in my childhood was traumatic, because I was sitting with people who had suffered horrible physical or sexual abuse. But here are some things that are, in fact, traumatic and - when they occur over a long period - can set you on a course of maladaptive coping for decades if not addressed:
Being told or shown that your emotions are not valid, that you have no safe place to express them
Parents or caregivers oversharing graphic trauma from their past with you
Threats of physical violence, even if not carried out
Being told or shown that affection or approval is contingent on competency or academic success
Prejudice from inside OR outside the family (homophobia, racism, body shame)
Mocking or dismissal of things that are meaningful to you
If you constantly feel unworthy, afraid, ashamed, or even flat and emotionless, it’s worth exploring why. And, because you’ve been so consistently undermined and minimized, you may feel like a fraud for being upset or functioning poorly. You’re not a fraud; it’s years of conditioning telling you “I should be able to handle this” or “lots of people are worse off than I am so I shouldn’t complain.” Your conditioned brain is lying to you; you won’t be able to open yourself to the joy of trusting relationships with others OR do meaningful things to help those who are worse off until you do the work to melt the block of ice surrounding you. All my love to you, friends.
Also, his books are not that expensive, well-written, and truly helped me process a lot of my trauma. I did a ton of it alone because I couldn’t find a therapist for years, and those books (complex ptsd: from surviving to thriving & the tao of fully feeling) really changed the trajectory of my life.
He talks about grieving, about changing our internal dialogue to one that’s positive instead of negative, talks about SEVERAL trauma typologies, and more.
As someone who has been diagnosed with the big trauma PTSD but most of their problems were coming from the little stuff that was CONSTANT and made me run on 2000% all day every day, this guy is a lifesaver. I’m so different from how I was before, especially with the help of some in-person therapy. Finding the right person makes all the difference, truly.
You can pick up his books on the website, but if you’re looking for resources on this and you have the space and support to be able to do some of your own work (please don’t do it completely alone unless you must) check out the sidebar over at pete-walker.com. He made this incredible resource that not everyone knows about and I try to share it where this comes up.
Thank you for informing people about this.
Reblogging for the additional info and resources, and to emphasize that the C does indeed stand for “complex,” not “chronic.” (Understandable that people would get mixed up, though.)
Hi, I want to add a little story a very silly trigger I’ve got. Because for real, it was due to the most minor ~trauma~ possible, but it still had very clear aftereffects. I hope that hearing this helps someone know that whatever their own thing is, no matter how trivial sounding even to yourself, it still counts as “bad enough”, whatever that means, for them to get help.
The sound of Velcro opening feels worse to hear than nails on a chalkboard. I genuinely thought everyone felt this way and was putting up with it in coats/shoes/etc for convenience, and the reason it wasn’t a saying is because it was a space age material, much younger than literal chalk, so why would it be used when we already had a literary device for this feeling? Turns out that was a trigger for me and literally no one else thinks of it like that!
Took a few months after we realized that I was perceiving the world differently than everyone on the planet for my mom to be the one who figured out why.
Some times, very rarely, as an infant my mother couldn’t get to me “fast enough” to comfort me. That’s it! That’s literally it! And the reason? She’s disabled, and wears hand braces at night to help support her wrists. But they also mean she can’t really use her hands, and when I was little her braces had like a thousand rows of velcro: so as an infant, all I knew was that the only times I cried out and was “ignored” were accompanied by the sound of my mother opening up her braces so she could come pick me up.
Seriously, you can have the best parents and childhood in the world and still come out with random trauma because of it! And guess what? Doesn’t matter how minor it was, it still registered as trauma to my tiny brain, and talking about it in therapy was so bizarre, like, worst crying I’ve ever done in therapy?? But it helped, and the sound of velcro is still nothing I like, but it’s way more tolerable now.
However small you think “it” was for you, whatever “it” is, or even if you have no idea what “it” could possibly be!, that was still enough and you should have support.
There is nowhere NEAR enough discussion about how damaging constant/chronic lecturing, invalidation, mocking, dismissal, bodyshaming, and overblown expectations are to a kid, even when it’s low-level, even when it’s “for their own good,” even when it’s not accompanied by physical violence. That’s still emotional abuse. It’s a heart wound by a thousand tiny cuts and it still leaves scars. And it’s made all the worse by the perception that because things weren’t as bad as they COULD have been, that person has no grounds to be upset or have trauma from the events.
There’s shit my family has said to me that’s stuck in my head FOREVER and it pops up like a jumpscare whenever conditions are right to recall it. Things that make me doubt myself, things that make me doubt my competency and question my interactions with others. And it NEVER goes away. But they’ve forgotten about it. Doesn’t even register. Because to them, it was a throwaway comment about my appearance or my interests or my intelligence, while to me, it was like getting hit with a brick.
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