Okay yeah on one hand, my gender and sexuality and mental health has nothing to do with doing my job, so I get how announcing my identity and who I am / am not attracted to could be considered as “Inappropriate for the workplace”.
That said, everyone who sees me (gestures to cis-passing, straight-passing, masking neuroatypical self in gender-conforming work clothing) and assumes, in the back of their head by default, that I’m a straight cis allo neurotypical person, so the topic has already kinda been brought up in a way. My saying “actually, no” isn’t so much an abrupt announcement as it is correction of an assumption.
And correcting those assumptions is important, especially for persons like me who occupy positions of authority, who appear in court and in community conferences, with business owners and CEOs and at-risk members of the public, ‘cause when I say, “these are my pronouns, I’m this” then peoplelike me can feel safer, and people who aren’t like me get to see that one of us exists in the real world and isn’t some scary hypothetical phantom.
And in the future, when someone says “you can always tell who’s trans” or “autistics can’t hold down real jobs” or “bisexuals are flirty and promiscuous by nature” or “asexuals aren’t real, they’re just basement-dwelling terminally-online tweens”, they can remember that one time they met me in a professional setting where I was who I was and the world didn’t end.
So when they see someone who, by chance, does match the image of their stereotype, they’ll know that’s just normal human variation and not a universal role.
So, it’s not so much that I want to “insert my deviance into the workplace”- it’s just me saying, “look at me. I’m here. We’re all here, and for every one of us you see, there’s a hundred others that you don’t. Because you don’t know what we look like, and wouldn’t know unless we told you.”
The status quo, the closeted life, is, “becareful who you come out to, because you could be surrounded by enemies, and you wouldn’t know until it’s too late”.
When I wear a pin, when I out myself in a small, subtle way, I say back: “be careful who you lash out at, because they could be surrounded by defenders, and you won’t know until it’s too late.”
It says, “if you couldn’t recognize me without this flag, then how many more of us might be out here with me?”
And the statement “you cannot attack me, we’re safe here” should not be banned in the workplace
Crazy how every language fully understood cats when they named them. Cat, Gato, Neko, Chat, Katze, Qitta, Mao… Like yeah all of you are just 100% correct
My own favorite paintings of centaurs in mundane situations include “The Centaur Playing with Her Child” by Otto Soltau and “A Centaur Playing with His Son” by Otto Bache
I just think everyone should take a moment to consider the question “what is your visual shorthand for cruelty?” and then follow it up with a critical “and who taught you that?”
specific examples include but are not limited to
why is an evil timeline character design disabled? (why do the heroes go through equally punishing battles and never lose an arm, a leg, an eye?)
why are the futuristic scifi terrorists uniformly darker skinned? (why are the heroes so much lighter?)
why is the greedy boss fat? (why are the heroes skinny?)
why is the criminal mastermind heavily scarred? (why is the brooding, traumatized hero unscathed?)
why is the predatory creep a bearded person in a dress and makeup? (why are none of the heroes trans women?)
who taught you that this is how things are?
how long do you plan on repeating it?
guys the point is “reflect on how you have learned bigotry through exposure and you parrot it in your own works and in the fandoms you engage with without self awareness” not “tell me, specifically, what random motifs you think are evil”
on the flipside, to everyone adding notes about hooked noses, turbans + headscarves, nonwhite features and cultural clothing in general, mental and physical disorders, and surely others I’ve missed in recollection: you are entirely right and should say it.
I just think everyone should take a moment to consider the question “what is your visual shorthand for cruelty?” and then follow it up with a critical “and who taught you that?”
specific examples include but are not limited to
why is an evil timeline character design disabled? (why do the heroes go through equally punishing battles and never lose an arm, a leg, an eye?)
why are the futuristic scifi terrorists uniformly darker skinned? (why are the heroes so much lighter?)
why is the greedy boss fat? (why are the heroes skinny?)
why is the criminal mastermind heavily scarred? (why is the brooding, traumatized hero unscathed?)
why is the predatory creep a bearded person in a dress and makeup? (why are none of the heroes trans women?)
who taught you that this is how things are?
how long do you plan on repeating it?
guys the point is “reflect on how you have learned bigotry through exposure and you parrot it in your own works and in the fandoms you engage with without self awareness” not “tell me, specifically, what random motifs you think are evil”
on the flipside, to everyone adding notes about hooked noses, turbans + headscarves, nonwhite features and cultural clothing in general, mental and physical disorders, and surely others I’ve missed in recollection: you are entirely right and should say it.
I can never tell which of my posts are going to explode (it is never ones I put work in) but I pray to God this one does
The past few weeks I have seen an explosion in doomerism and defeatism about Trump. Some people seem to have just decided to call the election for him for reasons that don’t even make much sense
(He was almost shot and that always helps! Look at Reagan and Teddy Roosevelt! Reagan was already president and incredibly popular, and the shooting happened 2 months into his first term; Roosevelt was shot when he was campaigning in 1912….in an election he lost)
Trump has never been popular, he has never won the popular vote, and he has never had popular support. For the past 3 years, especially post Roe V. Wade, Democrats have increasingly overperformed especially in special elections. There were so many polls predicting 2022 would be a Red Wave, that turned out to be false due to faulty and biased polling. I’m not saying a Dem loss is impossible, but it is a lot less of a sure thing than the doomsayers are making it out to be
How does Trump win? Apathy. Despair. Low Turn Out. While many of the “Trump is guaranteed to win” posters I’m sure are real people who are justifiably scared, I think we underestimate just how many are people at home and abroad, who want a lower turnout, who want Trump to win.
I used to hear a joke growing up that “If voting did anything, they would make it illegal” Well considering how hard Republicans are trying to discourage voting and making it hard to do, it must do something.
Working Family’s Party - an organization working to help progressives win in primaries and general elections. I particularly like working in their text bank program. Want to help in a phone bank but don’t like talking on the phone? this is perfect as you send texts to encourage support and voting
Spread this far and wide. Tell your friends and your family. Make clear to them what is at stake if Trump wins. Feel free to add other resources and organizations that
shoutout to my best buddy in highschool who once told me “you speak like how tumblr users write their textposts” and i was mortified for a second but then realization hit me and i rebutted with “wait how do YOU know how tumblr users write their textposts???” and we were both like
I am fat, if I sit on my legs like this for more than eleven seconds you are going to have to amputate bc I’m not going to make it out alive otherwise
I spent about 40 minutes making this in MS Paint instead of working and when I sent it to my tea ceremony friend she pointedly laugh reacted to everything except this 😒
i recommend being a fan of 1 problematic piece of media at least once in your life
believe it or not, someone being a fan of a shitty series doesn’t mean they agree with and/or approve of every little thing that is ever presented within this piece of media.
and no steven universe is not problematic media
no offense but everyone tagging this with like miraculous ladybug or some shit. miraculous is not fucking problematic either it’s made for like 8 year olds. 😭 please learn to consume content meant for people your own age if you’re gonna consider tv shows meant for literal children problematic in any sort of capacity lmao i do not care how annoying the fandoms are, some of the things people are tagging this with and going “omg yea THIS series is probably the most problematic thing i can think of!” and then it’s the literal embodiment of this picture
see this post was a joke post but now i am taking away the word problematic from everyone and putting it on a high shelf forever. sorry! what if we all exploded
so once me and my wife were watching a documentary where a snake ate like a million eggs. that snake just went to fucking town on eggs. and the snake made the eggs look so good that i kept thinking about it, and thinking about it, and thinking about it, and eventually it was 11pm and i ran out of willpower and decided to eat one (1) singular raw egg just to prove to myself that the snake was surely a liar.
the snake was not a liar. texture is like, super important to me and raw eggs are very Texture so i had another one, and then another one, and then another one, and eventually i ran out of eggs.
i had like, fifteen raw eggs.
i didnt really know how to explain this momentary madness to my wife, so my Plan was to put all the eggshells into a grocey bag, and then throw that grocery bag in the dumpster, and if she never noticed that would be Excellent and if she noticed immediately i could lie and say that the eggs went bad.
except i cant lie very good, and of course with murphys law being such, i got salmonella.
so i threw up a lot and my wife asked me what poisoned me so and i tried very hard to dodge the question but i was oozing shame like oil from a room temperature cheese and eventaully i gave in and told her everything and to her enormous credit she was more flabbergasted than actually upset. she did make me promise to not eat any more raw eggs, which i have stuck to, and she gives me weird looks during nature documentaries now as if desire was the only thing keeping me from eating thousands of pounds of krill
anyway i made a joke earlier about being able to eat my age in eggs and my sister in law in law made a drawing to comemorate the moment and also because it was my birthday. she’s excellent. thank you 10000000% @cintailed. you should all visit her page and admire her work.
daily reminder that i am a person with poor impulse control and not a demon piloting a skinsuit to punish the damned before they die. i cannot eat eggshells. sorry to dissapoint.
so once me and my wife were watching a documentary where a snake ate like a million eggs. that snake just went to fucking town on eggs. and the snake made the eggs look so good that i kept thinking about it, and thinking about it, and thinking about it, and eventually it was 11pm and i ran out of willpower and decided to eat one (1) singular raw egg just to prove to myself that the snake was surely a liar.
the snake was not a liar. texture is like, super important to me and raw eggs are very Texture so i had another one, and then another one, and then another one, and eventually i ran out of eggs.
i had like, fifteen raw eggs.
i didnt really know how to explain this momentary madness to my wife, so my Plan was to put all the eggshells into a grocey bag, and then throw that grocery bag in the dumpster, and if she never noticed that would be Excellent and if she noticed immediately i could lie and say that the eggs went bad.
except i cant lie very good, and of course with murphys law being such, i got salmonella.
so i threw up a lot and my wife asked me what poisoned me so and i tried very hard to dodge the question but i was oozing shame like oil from a room temperature cheese and eventaully i gave in and told her everything and to her enormous credit she was more flabbergasted than actually upset. she did make me promise to not eat any more raw eggs, which i have stuck to, and she gives me weird looks during nature documentaries now as if desire was the only thing keeping me from eating thousands of pounds of krill
anyway i made a joke earlier about being able to eat my age in eggs and my sister in law in law made a drawing to comemorate the moment and also because it was my birthday. she’s excellent. thank you 10000000% @cintailed. you should all visit her page and admire her work.
daily reminder that i am a person with poor impulse control and not a demon piloting a skinsuit to punish the damned before they die. i cannot eat eggshells. sorry to dissapoint.
so once me and my wife were watching a documentary where a snake ate like a million eggs. that snake just went to fucking town on eggs. and the snake made the eggs look so good that i kept thinking about it, and thinking about it, and thinking about it, and eventually it was 11pm and i ran out of willpower and decided to eat one (1) singular raw egg just to prove to myself that the snake was surely a liar.
the snake was not a liar. texture is like, super important to me and raw eggs are very Texture so i had another one, and then another one, and then another one, and eventually i ran out of eggs.
i had like, fifteen raw eggs.
i didnt really know how to explain this momentary madness to my wife, so my Plan was to put all the eggshells into a grocey bag, and then throw that grocery bag in the dumpster, and if she never noticed that would be Excellent and if she noticed immediately i could lie and say that the eggs went bad.
except i cant lie very good, and of course with murphys law being such, i got salmonella.
so i threw up a lot and my wife asked me what poisoned me so and i tried very hard to dodge the question but i was oozing shame like oil from a room temperature cheese and eventaully i gave in and told her everything and to her enormous credit she was more flabbergasted than actually upset. she did make me promise to not eat any more raw eggs, which i have stuck to, and she gives me weird looks during nature documentaries now as if desire was the only thing keeping me from eating thousands of pounds of krill
anyway i made a joke earlier about being able to eat my age in eggs and my sister in law in law made a drawing to comemorate the moment and also because it was my birthday. she’s excellent. thank you 10000000% @cintailed. you should all visit her page and admire her work.
daily reminder that i am a person with poor impulse control and not a demon piloting a skinsuit to punish the damned before they die. i cannot eat eggshells. sorry to dissapoint.
it sucks so bad that ‘lightning magic’ in every media is just some pathetic little strands of electricity. i wanna see some LIGHTNING. show me a magic setting where lightning magic lights up a room like the sun, and the bolt is only visible as an afterimage burned into your vision. I wanna see someone cast lightning and have the thunder rattling the room and shaking everyone to their core. i want lightning magic to be a split second blast of so much power it leaves everyone’s senses reeling. c'mon guys don’t you know what real lightning looks like? we can be doing so much better than this.
I agree with this but I’m always far more upset when plant magic is incredibly weak or used exclusively for healing. Like… Have you ever seen what a tree can do to a rock? What plants over the course of a millennium can do to an area? Or what some plants can do when they grow on a living thing? Now imagine you could do all those things in an instant, anywhere you wanted. Imaging growing an oak tree in someone’s chest. Imagine growing new trees that are very resistant to fire suddenly to block an enemy spell. Imagine filling the air with pollen so thick it causes the enemy forces to suffocate. Plant magic should be the scariest magic in any setting and instead it appears gets limited to “oh, I can’t hurt anyone. I must defend and heal those I care about.” No. Rip off that guy’s limbs with strangle vines before he even gets a chance to attack your friends.
SO many elemental/natural force magics are boiled down to particular tropes and i hate it!!! like what was listed above, having nature related magic depicted as frail or used exclusively with caring for others in mind.
personally. water being depicted as calm, working around the opponents moves bugs me so much. its cool in theory, but where are the water magic users who crash into you like a WAVE!!! pulling and pushing with a fierce, storm driven tide until you’re completely senseless and don’t even know which way is up!!! unreleting attackers that completely overwhelm you, don’t hesitate to keep dragging you down even when you stop kicking. using kelp/seaweed to strangle someone within an inch of their life. there’s something so awesome to me about water magic – because water is EVERYWHERE. water makes up most of the world!!! once you’re in its domain, there’s no getting out.
alternatively… where are the support fire users. fire has significantly helped the human race. Where are the fire users running around trying to help cauterize the fresh open wounds from battle
there’s absolutely something to be said about ‘booktok’ books being largely wattpad quality written erotica i’m certainly not reading them however having seen a guy on tiktok make a video like ‘all the women in your life are READING PORN’ about a book he picked up and read in his FEMALE FRIEND’S HOUSE in a tone of scandalised horror and disgust i actually don’t think men should be making those criticisms. he said he picked it up expecting a romance and was horrified it was GOONER SHIT he said specifically like ‘who are you getting your pussy wet FOR??’ in a tone of revulsion. idk man im not sure shes the weird one. i kind of wish you were dead
“a lot of books that are successful on booktok are not very good” and “people can read what they want and we need to stop being so fucking weird about women enjoying erotica” are both correct statements
i grew up in a big city and i rly think it’s important to the best of your ability learn to be okay sharing spaces with people who are not in that moment pleasant to be around. people who smell bad. screaming children. people asking you for money. teenagers noisily loitering. people talking to themself or to you in disorganized ways. even in a socialist utopia with free health care and housing and robust harm reduction programs, there’s always going to be people being disruptive and uncomfortable in public and you’ve gotta be okay with that and be polite.
when i was a freshman our RA’s name was Hunter but he was vegan so we ended up nicknaming him Gatherer and i still haven’t gotten over that lmao
During high school, some of us German students went on this exchange trip to Europe. One of the kids in our group was named Myles, and so we decided to call him Kilometers while we were staying in Europe
submissive in the way a livestock guardian dog is submissive to the sheep it kills wolves for
love how much attention this post is getting i knew the gay people in my phone would understand me. btw here’s the picture that inspired me to make this post in the first place:
living in a village of farmers is the fucking best i just left a party and the butcher was like hey i got some bones for your dog. your dog specifically because i like the cut of his jib. hell yeah
do you know how fucking great it is to get home tipsy as hell wake up your dog he is already exited to see you and you are like here you go a big bone for your majesty…my man thought he was damn heaven!! so good
his majesty himself
[ID: tags by @m-e-w-666 that read: #this blue dog is just like that green cat ///end ID]
i just heard the phrase “if you wouldn’t trust their advice, don’t trust their criticism” for the first time and i don’t think i’ve ever needed to hear anything more
The problem with my polycule is that I’ve got a wolfgirl GF and a goatboy BF and I’m carrying this cabbage so it’s basically impossible to cross rivers
You think you have it bad? I’m dating a frogboy and a scorpiongirl.
Me? I’ve got it made. Flyboy. Spidergirl. Birdgirl. Catboy. Dogthem. It just goes on and on. And tonight? Tonight we’re all going on a dinner date with this smoking hot GILF who I hear has one hell of a throat.
Let me know how it goes
*pale faced, drenched in sweat, emergency blanket draped over shoulders, clenching a coffee cup*
she just.. wouldn’t. she wouldn’t stop. I’m. They’re all gone. Everyone and everything and I’m alone.. I’m.. *bursts into screaming sobs*
Those tags are LEGIT. Canada has gotten so bad in recent years because provincial governments are so confident overstepping in wake of Trump. I cannot stress enough how important it is that all Americans get out and vote.
I don’t care how you feel more moral not voting because it matters so so so much and anyone trying to tell you otherwise is doing so to get Trump or someone like him back in power by using your non vote. It’s bad for everyone.
Do not let them convince you not to vote.
We’re voting for Supreme Court appointments.
We’re voting against the elimination of the Department of Education.
We’re voting to at least attempt to keep the separation of church and state.
Yes please americans vote. The Philippines is verily controlled by your country still. Economically, Militarily, Politically, etc
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