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“trans men have an easier time transitioning” I want you to sit here and look me in the face and tell me how devastated you would be if, on the day of your gender affirming surgery, your doctor called you and told you “sorry we’re cancelling it and aren’t helping you get this approved even though you have the right to this help”.
And then I want you to understand that that is exactly what happened to me at 8:15am on the date I was supposed to be checking in to my top surgery at 10:30am.
you can say literally anything like. “the autistic urge to go for a walk” and everyone in the notes will be like #WELL SHIT #Guess thats another mental problem to add to the list #forest rambles #casey dont look
America has a weird relationship with cults where they’re terrified of small cults (or organizations they think are cults) but completely normalized massive cults that hurt many more people (eg: LDS Church, Jehovah’s Witnesses, the Amish, Scientology, most Megachurches)
To anybody asking if the Amish are a cult, the answer is yes, very much so.
They’re a high control group that isolate you from society. The cult decides how you dress, how you behave, who you marry and how. They control what you know, blocking all information from the outside world. They control how you feel and what you’re allowed to think with threats of both social and supernatural harm. They’re a cult.
The best method to determine if a group is a cult, in my opinion, is Steven Hassan’s (cult expert and former cult member himself) BITE model.
BITE stands for Behavior Control, Information Control, Thought Control, and Emotional Control.
The more points a group “scores” on the model, the more of a cult it is.
I think this model is the best one for several reasons:
It’s more nuanced than “cult” or “not cult” and doesn’t make false equivalences between groups
It’s versatile, applying to groups big and small, and cults of all kinds, religious, political, financial, etc.
It focuses on what’s important, which is what the cult does to its members, and those members’ experiences, and not on irrelevant details like how uncommon their doctrines are or whether they have a charismatic leader
This is a great example of Thought Control used by cults whenever they’re confronted with criticism.
Oh so the plural of surgeon general is surgeons general, huh? Well what about bunnies rabbit. Puppies dog. KITTIES CAT. Did you ever think of that, you sillies goose?
Anyone else reminded of those tweets where it’s like “being homophobic is wrong” and someone replies “how dare you attack Christians” like bro no one said anything about Christians but you.
i love how everyone on this website interacts with each other in ways that are so socially impermissible irl. how did we get here
like i know none of us call people we barely know “bestie” out loud. i know none of us say “i am kissing you on the mouth” in response to every mild compliment. but god i wish we did
(recent) tumblr exclusive linguistic phenomena:
bestie (said to someone you’ve never spoken to directly)
so false worstie
we are holding hands
i am kissing you on the mouth
you’re going in the soup
variations on “your dad looks gnc af” “YOURE INSANE”
mutuals (technically this exists on other social media but not in spirit)
[gunshots] (people say this on twitter but they say it wrong)
using periods incorrectly to. fine tune the cadence of a line
my beloved/my beloathed
hyperspecific day of the week holidays e.g. flat fuck friday
variations on gaslight gatekeep girlboss
and, of course, prev tags
I think my absolute favorite is “Thank you for the input, Tumblr user [[wildly inappropriate username]]”
What do you mean people don’t know tumblr already had daily limits on posts and stuff. Are you telling me people on this hellsite have never known the limits of this place and now suddenly it’s a problem when it’s existed for years?
Like…Seriously. Don’t panic just because premium doubles the daily limit. The daily limit has always existed. It’s been a thing. It’s not a new thing. I say this as someone who’s been here since 2012. Please don’t act like it’s suddenly a new thing it’s not. Xkit even has a way to see the limits!
and btw fyi according to xkit’s long existing limit checker the long existing daily limits have always been and continue to be:
blogs - 10
follows - 200
likes - 1000
photos - 250
posts - 245
video seconds - 36000
videos - 20
minor nitpucks in case people can’t see the image: post limit is 250 and video seconds are 3600 (1 hour)
i love having adult horse girl friends. I’ll send them a 100x100px crunchy ass jpeg of a random brown horse and be like “thought of u🐴” and I can literally feel their sims relationship bar fill up in real time
Rly felt compelled to capture this before bed
i don’t think i posted it but here’s how the horsethey in question responded to this
Coworker started complaining about “Woke Stuff” during a call so I started talking over him and ranting about grammatical gender until he said he had another call
I have a generally strong short term memory so sometimes if he tries to interrupt me with some stupid point I’ll be like “You were not listening to me. Let me repeat” and I can repeat everything I said up until that point nearly verbatim w/ the same cadence and it pisses him off
Another thing I do is I’ll pretend I don’t know about an opinion he has and I’ll be like “Haha of course, some IDIOTS think [x] Hahaha! I know you know better than that because you’re not twelve, but I’ve seen some people say that unironically haha” this also pisses him off
14 year olds shipping discourse is inbreeding with itself to make the discourse equivalent of a brachycephalic bulldog at this point. They’re inventing new extremely vague moral purity categories at a rate nearly equivalent to the Mormon church
* For the record btw a paraphilia by definition is just any sexual desire classed as “unusual” by the dsm, which can include anything from apparently getting horny about imagining yourself as a vampire (?) to being attracted to fictional characters, to being attracted to trans people. It’s not an issue unless it has the capacity to cause real harm to yourself or others, at which point it becomes a paraphilic disorder
It is indeed literally just a form of OCD!! I used to have these kinds of thoughts where I’d read a fic and immediately after have long depression spirals thinking that I would be arrested and everyone would hate me for being a terrible person! Now I am on medication! Please seek help if you’re a teenager and deep into this way of thinking for real
It’s very important not to underestimate concerning behavior and thought processes just because it’s presenting itself in fandom discourse. Fandom/shipping continues to be looked at as a lesser hobby, something unserious, and therefore not worth worrying about. I believe that line of thinking is exactly why it’s gotten as bad as it is, at least in part.
People have been pointing out fandoms rapid decline into an obsessive (and often times destructive) purity cult for years, but it was repeatedly dismissed - because fandom is seen as petty, childish, or inconsequential. It underplays entirely how, to a lot of these younger people, fandom isa huge part of their life. It’s their main form of entertainment or socialization. Their line of thinking doesn’t cease to exist the moment they log off. It bleeds into other things. Being hyperaware and paranoid about what you like in fiction, because it’s a 1:1 reflection of your morality, doesn’t seem healthy in the slightest. It’s no surprise that it’s common to see these same people also having a moral panic about a 4 year age difference in real life.
Yes, fandom is fringe culture, though not as much as it used to be. At it’s core it will still be a bizzaro level of passion for fictional characters. It’s inherently goofy, and it’s very easy to shrug off obsessive levels of puritanism in a large portion of youth when its about cartoon characters. But, however fringe fandom is, it’s still a part of our culture. These are still real people thinking and behaving this way, even if it’s over fictional characters. It’s not something we can take lightly, especially not nowadays.
FYI if your employer does this, if they have done it for a long time especially, you and your coworkers could be owed huge amounts of unpaid wages and it would be an easy suit if there is a paper trail like this and your employer is placing strict requirements on your behavior while not at work. Employment lawyers generally work on contingency. Just food for thought.
A national park I worked at had all the permanent rangers (I was seasonal) basically on stand by for call outs 24-7 or they were penalized on their reviews.
They got tired of it, sued, won, and the nps had to pay back YEARS of back wages for stand by time. Now they are all scheduled and if* you get called out its time and a half.
ONLY because some rangers stood up.
If your employer does this: document document document, then find an attorney
Japanese legend: you have the face of who you loved most in a past life
THE NEXT AVATAR ABOUT TO LOOK FINE AFFFFFF
Oh, so YOU guys can just see a face and be like “I like that face, I’m gonna make it my face” and everyone’s just COOL with that. But whenI, Koh the Face Stealer,
Genuinely, I don’t know how else to get the word out, but I feel like if your home-cooked dinners don’t taste right, you’re missing either paprika, sugar, butter, or chicken bouillon.
Still not right? It might be missing one of these: Mustard powder, soy sauce, fish sauce, vinegar. MSG. Ketchup. Mushroom powder. Maple syrup. Honey.
Hey everyone, MSG is a valid culinary ingredient. It’s literally salt. Stop sending me racist messages.
The way demonization of MSG is still so normalized drives me up the fucking wall. Even among people who don’t think it’s literal poison or believe racist conspiracy theories about it, you often see people talking about how it’s lazy bc it’s a shortcut to make mediocre food taste better and like… That’s literally just how seasoning food works. “Oh MSG just tricks your brain into thinking the food tastes better by artificially stimulating your umami tastebuds” THAT’S HOW SUGAR AND SALT WORK TOO.
I love MSG. If you don’t like MSG go fuck yourself
If true we HAVE to make this the biggest flop in gaming history, as in ‘destroys the company’ levels of gaming flop as in a 'lesson must be taught’ gaming flop, as in 'E.T. destroyed atari’ gaming flop
have you noticed that they don’t even want you right clicking anymore
Yeah! you can do it to a youtube video and take a snapshot of that frame if it’s paused, or open the thumbnail in a new tab if it hasn’t started playing yet
“I have hitherto confined my investigations to this world,” said he. “In a modest way I have combated evil, but to take on the Father of Evil himself would, perhaps, be too ambitious a task.”
This bit tickles me so much like. Holmes’ skepticism about the supernatural tends to be exaggerated, that it cannot exist rather than that too much is ascribed to it, but the way he puts it here is so funny. Like “well if it is the Devil what do you expect me to do about it? exorcise him with my magnifying glass?”
(of course this is just catnip for every writer ever to want to throw him into SO many supernatural situations regardless) (myself not excluded)
Holmes: And so, if immortal vampires were real, they’d have long grown suspicions in their hometown. The people would be so well prepared that the vampires would grow hungry and terribly weak. It’s always “ the Vampyre of Corinth”, “The Moura vampyre…”. If I were a hungry undead, I would be constantly on the move. Yet, you never hear tales of vampires travelling to new hunting grounds. If vampires were real, they’d be migratory.
Dracula: Yes, quite right.
Holmes: That said, if vampires were real I cannot fathom how deeply embarrassing it must be that they can only enter houses with an invitation. Congratulations, you’re outdone by any toddler tall enough to reach a doorknob.
SLAY LAMB IS HERE SLAY LAMB!!! LAMB’S UPDATED DESIGN!!!! Brought to you with new lore and stuff and a thing i spent WAY too long on for it to be healthy
Writing or drawing a character with both genitalia specifically for porn is actually fine, just don’t put it in intersex tags and don’t refer to the character as intersex! Use words like salmacian & bigenital. It’s a very common stereotype/misconception that we ‘have both’. Even those of us with ambiguous genitalia don’t have two fully separate & fully functional sets. We have one set of genitalia that is between male & female.
from the makers of staples, we now present staples for bread, as well as staples you can eat, as well as staples you can eat that are also for bread! do not mix them up
Every single time I see a take that amounts to “if you write about X happening, or like fiction where X happens, you like X” I’m reminded of this one time I was at a casual friends house as a young kid. We were in her room, pretending to “be orphans” escaping from an evil orphanage and having to take care of each other and fend for ourselves. It was all very Little Orphan Annie/All Dogs Go to Heaven and based on the 80s pop media.
And this girl’s mom comes in, hears what we’re playing and gets all MAD and UPSET. She says that if we play act something, it’s because we want it to happen. So her daughter must WANT HER TO DIE.
First off lady, we were 6 year year olds, so take it down several notches. We barely had a concept of mortality for fucks sake. She made us feel so guilty and ashamed, because she was taking our game personally.
Now I have a 5 year old. And sometimes she looks at me and says “pretend you’re dead, and I have to -” Whatever it is. Some adult task she’s assigned herself.
And it’s just so transparently obvious that she’s practicing the idea of having to do things on her own. Which is exactly what 5 year olds are supposed to do. I actually find it very flattering that the only way she can envision me not being available to help her is to be literally deceased. Otherwise, obviously, she wouldn’t have to do scary hard things alone.
It’s a natural coping mechanism. She’s self-soothing about what would happen if I wasn’t there by play-acting independence in a perfectly safe environment. She’s also practicing skills she needs, and making up excuses for practicing them on her own, without taking on the responsibility of being able to do them by herself all the time yet.
Humans mentally rehearse bad this in their brains all the time. We can do that by ruminating- going over worries over and over again, which tends to lead to anxiety and helplessness and depression. Or we can do it with a sense of play- by recognizing that the fiction is fiction and we can dip our toe into these experiences and expose ourselves to bad things without actually being injured.
My daughter does not want me dead. And I don’t want bad things to happen in real life. But fiction and pretend help me face the horrors of the world and think about them without collapsing or messing myself up mentally.
Every single time I see a take that amounts to “if you write about X happening, or like fiction where X happens, you like X” I’m reminded of this one time I was at a casual friends house as a young kid. We were in her room, pretending to “be orphans” escaping from an evil orphanage and having to take care of each other and fend for ourselves. It was all very Little Orphan Annie/All Dogs Go to Heaven and based on the 80s pop media.
And this girl’s mom comes in, hears what we’re playing and gets all MAD and UPSET. She says that if we play act something, it’s because we want it to happen. So her daughter must WANT HER TO DIE.
First off lady, we were 6 year year olds, so take it down several notches. We barely had a concept of mortality for fucks sake. She made us feel so guilty and ashamed, because she was taking our game personally.
Now I have a 5 year old. And sometimes she looks at me and says “pretend you’re dead, and I have to -” Whatever it is. Some adult task she’s assigned herself.
And it’s just so transparently obvious that she’s practicing the idea of having to do things on her own. Which is exactly what 5 year olds are supposed to do. I actually find it very flattering that the only way she can envision me not being available to help her is to be literally deceased. Otherwise, obviously, she wouldn’t have to do scary hard things alone.
It’s a natural coping mechanism. She’s self-soothing about what would happen if I wasn’t there by play-acting independence in a perfectly safe environment. She’s also practicing skills she needs, and making up excuses for practicing them on her own, without taking on the responsibility of being able to do them by herself all the time yet.
Humans mentally rehearse bad this in their brains all the time. We can do that by ruminating- going over worries over and over again, which tends to lead to anxiety and helplessness and depression. Or we can do it with a sense of play- by recognizing that the fiction is fiction and we can dip our toe into these experiences and expose ourselves to bad things without actually being injured.
My daughter does not want me dead. And I don’t want bad things to happen in real life. But fiction and pretend help me face the horrors of the world and think about them without collapsing or messing myself up mentally.
contrary to popular belief not everyone has an innate sense of internal gender or care to have one or seek a name for it, some people go their whole lives without questioning their occupation in one of two gender roles, but for some people, if pressed, they don’t feel that internal sense of ‘i am a woman’ or ‘i am a man’, and in that case i feel the switch over to transgender vs cisgender relies on active identification of a gender other than the one they were assigned. if someone’s like ‘idk dude I just work here’ then that’s valid
A portion of people in the notes are like ‘but that makes you trans. That’s called being agender’ and another portion of people are going ‘this is how the majority of cis ppl feel and it’s NOT agender’ and personally I feel like both of them are missing the point here. Yes a lot of people identify as agender because of this feeling. Yes a lot of people with this same feeling still identify as cis. These are not mutually exclusive experiences and it doesn’t mean the agender people are secretly cis or the cis people are secretly agender. It just means they have very similar experiences of gender that they choose to conceptualize and label differently, and neither of them are mistaken or wrong to do so.
This explains a lot about my lack of asking for help when I clearly need it
Don’t forget the fact that asking for help carries the risk of someone expressing mild disappointment in your inabilities, which will cause you to shut down for 5 to 7 working days.
Also see: learning from a very young age that there’s no point in asking for help because you should be able to do it on your own
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