Spicy-brained friends, I would like to propose an update to the very useful ‘if you hate everyone, eat, if everyone hates you, sleep, and if you hate yourself, shower’ mantra to live by
Have you suddenly become a petty, hateful little gremlin who thinks people should face the firing squad for (checks notes) leaving teabags on the counter, breathing loudly, or daring to exist in the same space as you? Perhaps mundane and reasonable requests like ‘hey, we agreed to hang out now, let’s hang out’ make you want to scream and move to a yurt in the woods.
You. Are. Overstimulated.
People talk a lot about being overstimulated, and the physical/mental effects of it. What I haven’t seen is people talking about what it does emotionally, and it took
me an embarassingly long time to link up those nitpicky, resentful emotions with the state of overstimulation/meltdown/shutdown.
These feelings do not mean that you’re a bad person! They probably aren’t how you actually feel about the people around you. They probably do mean that your nervous system is at its absolute limit and any request/demand/stimulus is Too Much and taking you into fight or flight territory.
Go lie down in a dark room for an hour, or find somewhere safe and familiar to stim for a bit. If it’s happening a lot, schedule yourself regular low-stimulation shutdown time
Signed: someone who moved in with their nearest and dearest only to have a massive crisis of faith about Suddenly Hating All of Them. I don’t hate them, it’s just overstimulating living with people. If I can spare anyone else a similar 9 months of suspecting that they may actually be a bit of a shit person, then this post is worth it!
you might especially feel this way if someone picks up on your bad mood, but all their kind suggestions make you want to bite and scream. in my experience that’s not because you hate them or even the suggestion, it’s probably because *any* new information or ideas, no matter how gentle, is just Too Many Thoughts. this is when it helps a lot to have a plan in advance, even if the plan is just “take medication” or “go to hidey-hole,” because trying to think of a solution in the moment might be beyond you.
(also if ur overstimulated, it’s often worth checking if you need to eat/sleep/shower as well, because that might be part of what’s overstimulating you!)
chronic pain is also a source of overstimulation
Wait. That last one. Chronic pain being a source of overstimulation. This explains my general mood 99% of the time. Why I never realized…
Here I just thought I was being An Awful Person™️ (for merely having the thoughts; I never treat anyone poorly)
😳 <- this emoji but without the blush or romantic connotation. im not blushing im staring you directly in your fucking eyes
if you excuse the bad editing it would look like this
can we hit 150k before this piece of shits one year anniversary
u know before yellow emojis took over as automatic, the one we used for this exactly was O_O . which has unfortunately become the shortcut for the stupid blushy one. but we also used to emphasize the emotion by making the mouth bigger, O_________O . there was also o_O , for when you’re weirded out, and o_o for small weirds or intrigue. you could use a period instead of an underscore for the mouth, o.o, O.O, which was a little more like shock.
there was also -_- for when you’re annoyed. -_-* for pissed. the asterisk is a forehead vein. a very bad day or very bad joke could result in -___________-********** .
anyway that’s your history lesson for the day, dont forget your roots.
let us also not forget the meekest of them all: ._.
There’s also >_< (annoyed/frustrated) and ~_~ (at a loss for words/overwhelmed but resigned). ^_^ (happy) but ^___^ is impishly pleased with oneself/being a brat and the wider the mouth, the more of a loving pest one is being.
*_* is starry-eyed or dazzled. >_> <_< are sneaky eyes. ×_× are dead/slain eyes. c_c was usually something along the lines of “I am looking Respectfully.”
;_; or q_q are crying (which is where the old “qq” for “cry more” comes from). ;o; is wailing while crying, a sort of “nooooooo!” response.
We had a whole range of text emojis, heh.
Thank you, I always felt like I was the only one who did >_> <_< for shifty eyes
A million years ago, when I was seeing these in chat rooms, I knew someone who would do
imperative for you to understand that i deserve a little treat
“what did u do to deserve it” deserve? DESERVE? i existed another day in this foul iniquitous world of malice. i am innately deserving of Little Treats
the guinean cock-of-the-rock is a colorful member of the cotinga family found in rainforest habitats of south america. they primarily feed on fruits such as papaya, but supplement their diet with small animals such as lizards and snakes. females are brown in coloration as opposed to the male’s bright orange, which helps disguise them in preferred nesting sites of rocky outcroppings. the guinean cock-of-the-rock is known for prevalent homosexuality in males, with up to 40% of males engaging in same-sex breeding behavior, and a smaller percentage never taking a female mate.
The fact that that scishow hrt video kind of quips outright about no one on the writing team taking feminizing hormones is what baffles me like was that not embarrassing to say? I feel like if a big science youtube channel made a video about a more general health topic and half way through implied that there were no women on the writing team you’d be like. “okay why are you joking about that. That kind of calls into question the accuracy of the information you’re presenting and also the kind of workplace that is going on behind the scenes”. But when it’s specially about trans stuff they can just be like yeah we didn’t speak to any trans women about that first part lol.
That’s… That’s not what they say? I’m assuming you’re talking about the intro to the Testosterone section but the direct quote is “Now this next bit is the bit that our writer, Alex, actually has experience with. In other words we’re moving on to Testosterone”
It absolutely doesn’t claim that no trans women were talked to during this, nor that there aren’t any trans women on the writing staff.
Okay let’s look at the possible scenarios that could exist in which this sentence is said:
1: There was a trans woman with experience with feminising hormones on the writing team for the episode, but for some reason they differentiated the part on testosterone as having someone with personal experience, which is pretty insulting to the trans woman and feels unlikely
2: there is a trans woman with experience with feminizing hormones on staff but she wasn’t called to work on this specific episode (this is probably one of the worst case scenarios that is like. Pretty egregiously transmisogynistic)
3: there is a trans woman that worked on the episode that just doesn’t have experience with feminizing hormones (perfectly reasonable scenario that does not alter anything because it still means there wasn’t anyone on the writing team with personal experience with feminizing hrt)
4: no trans women writers work for the studio, but they did contact outside trans women for their personal experiences with hrt, and were either given accurate information that was ignored, or innacurate information that wasn’t properly vetted to the same degree as was the case with testosterone, which was more accurate because there was someone with personal experience with masculinizing hormones writing the episode. Which should make a point in and of itself.
5: no trans women were contacted in the creation of the video.
The fact is that none of these scenarios are good. They all point to transmisogyny. The video gave harmful misinformation on a sensitive and politicised topic that most people are ignorant about. Regardless of what went on behind the scenes it’s an irresponsible mess
I gave this video way more benefit of the doubt when I originally saw it, but thinking about it got exhausting fast.
I thought of it as a way to tell cis people the bare minimum about hrt, but the tone of it clearly oriented it towards trans people.
The misreadings of the ucsf SoC are extremely blatant.
Where are trans women supposed to go for information? I guess transfemmescience is as good as it gets, and its mostly fantastic, but there are still some issues there.
i love pharmacies. i just tried to refill my hrt prescriptions and the automated system was like “okay! it’ll be ready in 2 weeks! ^u^” and i currently have like 2 days worth of meds left and it usually only takes a day or two max to refill the prescription. so i got freaked out and tried to call a real person at the pharmacy and they were just like “oh yeah it said that because we were out but I can just put in another order and it’ll be ready in like 2 hours lol”
i keep seeing that post about how frustrating the buff guy -> petite girl type genderbending is, and i wanted to add my two cents regarding the addition of ‘just swap pronouns and don’t change the design’ approach because i think these are two sides of the same coin, as they both fail to really delve into what i think is the most interesting aspect of this design exercise.
the reason i find genderbending to be such a fun and interesting challenge is because, if you actually want to be good at it and put thought into it, you have to really consider the character’s canon gender expression and think about what it means to them and how it reflects in their outward appearance and presentation.
is this male character buff because he likes to work out / be strong, or does he aspire to achieve conventional heteronormative male beauty?
is this female character a tomboy because she likes to express herself in a more masculine way, or is she doing it to fight gender norms?
the answers to those questions should produce very different designs!
this website loves to say that gender is a spectrum, but sometimes i genuinely wonder if people actually understand what that means.
gender expression, much like gender, is also a spectrum, which is why keeping the character exactly the same won’t always work, in the same way that just making the character conventionally attractive won’t always work. but sometimes, a buff dude would actually just be a hot girl. lady bane, however, would 100% look exactly the same.
On a scale of this to Barnyard Dick Tits Song how are you handling your cartoon being canceled?
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I was originally just gonna reblog because of the top tart of the post, but the clip is legitimately funnier than any stand up I’ve even heard, i actively cannot breathe i can’t let anybody notice me laughing, lest they ask what I’m laughing about
On a scale of this to Barnyard Dick Tits Song how are you handling your cartoon being canceled?
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I was originally just gonna reblog because of the top tart of the post, but the clip is legitimately funnier than any stand up I’ve even heard, i actively cannot breathe i can’t let anybody notice me laughing, lest they ask what I’m laughing about
“You wearing a collar in public is bad cuz I didn’t consent” you wearing a bracelet in public is bad cuz I didn’t consent to it.
Yall don’t really have a right to consent to other peoples clothes.
What’s next? Boys aren’t allowed to wear dresses cuz conservatives don’t “consent?” Trans people don’t get to wear gender affirming clothes cuz people don’t “consent?” Women don’t get to wear pants anymore cuz you don’t “consent?”
“Wearing a collar is sexual!” OK and? There are people that get off wearing certain clothes, are you going to restrict what men and women are allowed to wear by deciding those clothes are inherently sexual?
You ignore parents abusing their kids in grocery stores, you ignore the homeless people begging for money, you can ignore the gay people in collars and stuff.
So many people are getting soooo mad at me for things I never said in the post. But, real quick: no, youre not morally correct to assault someone in a collar. No, youre not morally correct to assault someone with a leash. No, youre not morally correct to assault someone in a gimp suit. And, I can’t believe I have to say this, considering how it’s a disability millions deal with around the world - no, you are not morally correct correct to assault someone you notice has a diaper under their clothes. Your righteous violence it turns out, is just violence, indistinguishable from anyone else’s.
On that note, yall are the blogs that joke about being so anxious about telling the cashier you didn’t want pickles. Yall ain’t “beating” anyone’s ass.
And if we’re busy picking which type of gay is most acceptable, that leaves tons of room for bigots to come in and say “this side is right” and watch us tear each other apart. And then they can pretty easily say to the side what won “Well actually you were a little too mean to the other gays so now you die too” all the way until there are no gay people left alive; or that the only ones who are alive are too afraid to go out in public ever again.
I’m having VERY vivid memories of finding a DS stylus that was the pokemon Mew with a GIANT cock that had the stylus tip coming out of it and I’m not sure if its real
Anon eats 6–8 eggs daily (scrambled, on toast), and their friends say this isn’t normal. Anon has 12 chickens so there are always plenty of eggs available at virtually no cost.
Still remember when a homo- and transphobic acquaintance tried to bring up JKR’s views on trans people in conversation and I shut it down with «oh yeah she’s been saying a lot of dumb shit on Twitter after she finished writing Harry Potter, like when she claimed Dumbledore was gay, just to be politically correct», which made it absolutely impossible for him to admit that he agreed with anything JKR had ever said. Sometimes you just have to weaponise people’s homophobia against their transphobia.
Other ways to stop family members/acquaintances from going on bigoted rants:
«Isn’t this all a bit silly? I mean, I’m more concerned about the economy/the war in Ukraine/covid/my job» - weaponised whataboutism
«Do you work with a lot of trans people? Because it seems like this is a problem you frequently encounter in everyday life from the way you talk about it» and when they say they don’t, follow up with «well then I don’t see what you’re making such a fuss about»
«Idk, I haven’t been much on social media lately, I think Twitter is a waste of time» - make them feel like they’re the ones who are terminally online
«Idk, I’m not that concernced with other people’s genitals and sex lives» - creep shaming
The point is that I’ve used all of these in various contexts and they’ve saved a good number of dinner table conversations from derailing into pointless debating. You don’t de-radicalise friends and family members by entering into political discussions they initiate just to stir up shit. You de-radicalise them by shifting the focus away from their shitty opinions and onto the things you have in common and the practical everyday stuff that exists outside their internet echo chambers.
[image ID: Bernie Sanders meme with a small aromantic flag captioned “I am once again asking for you to include aromantics in your pride art/posts/merch” End ID]
One of the hardest parts of writing gay anything is that they (often) use the same pronouns. Balancing names and pronouns so that I’m not overusing either of them is maybe THE hardest part of writing for me, because if you use ‘he’ too many times in a row you’ll lose track of who’s doing what, but too many names is repetitive and awkward to read!
“Alright,” Josh said, pushing him into the wall. “But it’s really not that hard to navigate.”
“Who are you talking to?” Jayson replied.
“Shh,” he stroked his face, and studied his face like he was seeing it for the first time. “New speaker new line. They’ll figure it out.”
He laughed nervously. “Are you seriously giving them a writing lesson right now?”
“Is it working?”
“I don’t know,” he said. “Which one of us is speaking?”
“Obviously me,” Josh said. “It’s not as if there’s a third guy in this scene or anything.”
in the last 24 hours staff has told a trans woman (maia crimew) a rape threat in her inbox doesn’t count as violating TOS, and deleted a trans woman’s completely normal average blog (charlottan) happy fucking pride lmao
like as if the double standard couldn’t be laid more bare. receiving an ask that literally said “i’m going to rape you” doesn’t count as sexually abusive or violent but clearly all these women are #problematic pedophiles for occasionally hornyposting. normal website
you call this place “wall greens” yet its walls… are not green? how very pecuilar…
ah i see now. so “walgreen” was a clan of bandits who conquered various, smaller apothecaries in order to acquire the vast empire they now sit upon. how very cruel, this “america”. you are ruled by warlords and do nothing to usurp them?
you call this place “wall greens” yet its walls… are not green? how very pecuilar…
ah i see now. so “walgreen” was a clan of bandits who conquered various, smaller apothecaries in order to acquire the vast empire they now sit upon. how very cruel, this “america”. you are ruled by warlords and do nothing to usurp them?
ALT
