furiousgoldfish:

Dismantling the Lies of Abusive Parents Masterlist

Resources

• Giving you food and clothing is the bare minimum
  
• You don’t owe gratitude for food and clothes you needed as a child
• You had the right for basic resources
• Parents shaming you for costing money is ironic and stupid
• What it means when they say ‘This is MY house’
• My house = my rules is blackmail
• Children don’t owe absolute obedience for being fed and sheltered

Physical abuse

• You are allowed to refuse any touch, not only violence
• If they ‘don’t know they’re hurting you’, why do they ignore or punish you when you protest?
• Hitting children is irrational and doesn’t work
• You cannot ‘provoke’ your parents to abuse you if they’re not abusive
• Why do parents hit, manipulate and traumatize children

Blatant Lies

• Care, nurture and affection do not make you weak
• They’re lying when they say it ‘wasn’t that bad’‘
• You wouldn’t have grown up spoiled if not for abuse
• You got too affected by it’ is a lie
• Your parents are not ‘just too emotionally immature’ to understand abuse
• ‘You’re not living in the real world!’ is nonsense
• You’re not worthless, a burden, ungrateful, or stupid, and your parents know that.
• Constant undermining of your accomplishments is abuse
• Not being allowed to talk about the past is symptom of abuse
• Parents who want you to be happy vs look happy
• You are not abusive for resisting abuse
• When they claim ‘they didn’t mean it’, it’s still abuse
  
• Your parents are responsible for their own actions regardless of how badly they try to shift blame on you

Psychological abuse

• Blind Obedience is not required in a healthy upbringing
• Disgust is a weapon abusive parents use on their kids
• If they say they love you, but walk all over your feelings, they don’t 
• Parents don’t have the right to enter your room to scream at you
• Parents insisting for you to be ‘tough’ are doing it to hide the trauma
• Even if a kid acts like ‘they can take it’, it’s still abuse
• Pretending abuse is discipline will leave children permanently scarred
• It’s inhumane to control and shame children’s reactions to abuse
• Why don’t you already know this? vs Teaching you necessary skills
• Acting like they’ll change is escape sabotage
• Parents are responsible for protecting children from harm
• References to how healthy parenting looks like
• Not being allowed to be angry with your parents is psychological abuse
• If parents want you to act the way you did when you were little, they’re dangerous
• Threats about how hard your life will be later on, are bad for you
• Lack of continuity and ever-changing rules will cause anxiety
• Forced obedience will lead you to abusive relationships
• Parents acting like you’re a ‘bad child’ is a shame tactic to control you
• There’s healthy and abusive ways to give children chores
• Revisioning the past and insisting you remember it wrong is gaslighting
• If your parents make you suicidal, they’re abusive
• Parents threatening ‘they could be worse’ is abuse
• Always assuming the worst intentions for your actions is wrong
• Keeping children hostage in abuse is torture

If this hits home, also read Recognizing Abuse Masterlist

esthermika:

ALT

kuthedragon:

Good LORD there huge

:

And Zionism is the sepratist ideology that depends on antisemitism as a life force. Antisemitism is like marketing Israel for Zionist elites. To sell Israel, the idea of the “Jewish safe haven”, you need to ensure antisemitism still — why else has the United States done absolutely nothing about its blatant neo-Nazi problem? Because Israel needs it.

Jews who recognise this are cast aside— we are not real Jews, we’re shameful, they hope we get “picked” or whatever. Because we stand against our history being bastardised to excuse the slaughter of Palestinians, because we stand against inhumanity and murder and war and Facism. We’re simply “not Jews”.

And I’ll say— I don’t care! I must not be Jewish then. For detesting murder. For hating Facism. I must not be Jewish, then, if that’s what Judaism is to you.

baconmancr:

plasmalogical:

theindependentconservative:

plasmalogical:

plasmalogical:

this isnt necessarily good news but i hope we can all agree that if you are attacked by a puma and you kill it with your bare hands it should be socially acceptable to wear the pelt wherever you damn well please

spoken like a future puma victim

….why didn’t he shoot the mountain lion?

lol what are you, a gun cuck? cant kill a large predator with your own hands?

northshorewave:

This stuff is basically impossible to parody.

toastbutteregg:

linkedlikedays:

aquilacalvitium:

inthefallofasparrow:

Hot Shit | Tom Cardy

Okay not only is this a bop but it single handedly raised my self confidence

My 2 year old is OBSESSED with this song. When we first started listening to it they loved it, and then began requesting it by name. Except we never told them the name of the song, because it’s called Hot Shit and we didn’t want a baby demanding, “Mama, Hot Shit!!!”

So they made up their own name, based on a toddler’s understanding of the lyrics:

“Mama, can we listen to

Rocketship?

capacity2:

michkovs:

capacity2:

michkovs:

capacity2:

Silk is so beautiful. Thank you worms

u know they boil them alive for silk right

They’re worms…

ok im not gonna argue with a sociopath

Thank god

puppygirl-panopticon:

running-batty:

cpntredbeard:

This is the End Goal of Capitalism

I have had strong visions of the need for a specifically geriatric care orientated fast response team for evictions,.

back in 2009 I was working with a teacher from my sister’s school to get hours I needed to get my cna certification back. I was assigned to help with a few residents in what was supposed to be a very nice nursing home. One of the residents I was helping with was unaware and unresponsive at all times. She could not move nor speak and while we were sure she could hear she did not have any way of communicating.

So imagine my confusion when I showed up for my shift to see the other person assigned to her packing up this woman’s belongings.

I asked what was going on and got that they were kicking the woman out. I wondered if they had said where she was going to go and the other aid explained that she hadn’t been told anything but that it was very strange.

I helped pack this woman’s belongings and went to help in another room.

About an hour later I checked up on the unresponsive resident only to see the aid back with her looking extremely distressed.

She let me know that they were sending the woman back to her previous address as the prices for the nursing home had risen and her social security checks no longer covered the costs. Since they hadn’t been able to get ahold of her family the woman’s payments hadn’t been covering the full amount and eventually she missed several payments as the money coming in was ate up by late fees and such.

Thing is her previous home had been sold and her family had moved out of state. So they were taking her to the house of a stranger.

I went and reported this to my instructor and told her we needed to call the state board to report this. While I was doing that they packed the woman into a transport vehicle and drove her away.

They left her in a stretcher in the street.

My instructor didn’t want to rock the boat because the school needed to keep working with this facility so that her students would be able to get their credit hours.

We got into an argument because I pointed out that if she didn’t report it she was also breaking the law as this was a clear case of endangerment.

Our argument attracted the attention of other residents and nursing aids. When they asked what was going on I told them exactly what happened.

Unsurprisingly everyone was upset that the facility has just abandoned a woman who could not move or speak on a street in the middle of summer. It was around 90f out side!

My phone was locked up at the time so I kept badgering the instructor and made it clear I would be reporting the situation first chance I got and I would be naming her too as someone who chose to let this happen.(She kicked me out of her program for this but I did report her to her principal and school board.)

During this a bunch of the residents heard me point out how extremely illegal this was and how dangerous it was. All of the aids were talking to each other. And because they heard me loudly state I was going to report it once I had a phone people started slipping away.

And hour later transport returns with the resident and she is soaked in sweat and red all over. Her aid and I rushed over to clean her and put medicated cream on her skin. While we tried to get fluid in her aid proudly let me know that I reminded everyone that they had the power to help and people started calling the owners, state board, child services even. Two residents proudly told me that they called the police for a wellness check. So many people called and made a scene that the owners scrambled to get the woman back.

A few neighbors who saw the woman dumped even reported them to the police!

The absolute deluge of calls spooked the owners so bad they rushed to get the woman back to the facility before the news found out.

An investigation was started after that. I was told by the instructor that she didn’t feel comfortable having me around even though I was right and that she wouldn’t vouch that I preformed the hours I worked. I would have to start over with another instructor.

I asked her if she thought the part of the course that says you legally have to report neglect and abuse was optional.

Then I got my money back.

My sister let me know that the Owners of the facility decided to follow the law and got a case worker for that woman who found her family and was able to properly move her into a cheaper facility instead of dumping her on the street at a strangers door.

Which they should have done in the first place.

But packing her up and throwing out in the street was far quicker and cheaper. So that’s what they did. Had so many people not fought for her they might have gotten away with that.

I’m not surprised another facility resorted to having that 93 year old arrested. Majority of care facilities are all about money first and the actual residents well being last.

weaselle:

inthefallofasparrow:

hellyrgf:

teaboot:

brenna:

canthaveshitingotham-crucified:

canthaveshitingotham-crucified:

i hate it when i cant even write a poem about something because its too obvious. like in the airbnb i was at i guess it used to be a kids room cause you could see the imprint of one little glow in the dark star that had been missed and painted over in landlord white. like that’s a poem already what’s the point

you get it. you get the themes. i dont have time to do it justice. just look at it its on the ceiling

ALT

these exchanges and this fiddling about for the collective to appreciate in passing is, to me, true artistic spirit. I don’t know what the past was truly like to live, but in my heart i know that humans have always been… like this

running-batty:

cpntredbeard:

This is the End Goal of Capitalism

I have had strong visions of the need for a specifically geriatric care orientated fast response team for evictions,.

back in 2009 I was working with a teacher from my sister’s school to get hours I needed to get my cna certification back. I was assigned to help with a few residents in what was supposed to be a very nice nursing home. One of the residents I was helping with was unaware and unresponsive at all times. She could not move nor speak and while we were sure she could hear she did not have any way of communicating.

So imagine my confusion when I showed up for my shift to see the other person assigned to her packing up this woman’s belongings.

I asked what was going on and got that they were kicking the woman out. I wondered if they had said where she was going to go and the other aid explained that she hadn’t been told anything but that it was very strange.

I helped pack this woman’s belongings and went to help in another room.

About an hour later I checked up on the unresponsive resident only to see the aid back with her looking extremely distressed.

She let me know that they were sending the woman back to her previous address as the prices for the nursing home had risen and her social security checks no longer covered the costs. Since they hadn’t been able to get ahold of her family the woman’s payments hadn’t been covering the full amount and eventually she missed several payments as the money coming in was ate up by late fees and such.

Thing is her previous home had been sold and her family had moved out of state. So they were taking her to the house of a stranger.

I went and reported this to my instructor and told her we needed to call the state board to report this. While I was doing that they packed the woman into a transport vehicle and drove her away.

They left her in a stretcher in the street.

My instructor didn’t want to rock the boat because the school needed to keep working with this facility so that her students would be able to get their credit hours.

We got into an argument because I pointed out that if she didn’t report it she was also breaking the law as this was a clear case of endangerment.

Our argument attracted the attention of other residents and nursing aids. When they asked what was going on I told them exactly what happened.

Unsurprisingly everyone was upset that the facility has just abandoned a woman who could not move or speak on a street in the middle of summer. It was around 90f out side!

My phone was locked up at the time so I kept badgering the instructor and made it clear I would be reporting the situation first chance I got and I would be naming her too as someone who chose to let this happen.(She kicked me out of her program for this but I did report her to her principal and school board.)

During this a bunch of the residents heard me point out how extremely illegal this was and how dangerous it was. All of the aids were talking to each other. And because they heard me loudly state I was going to report it once I had a phone people started slipping away.

And hour later transport returns with the resident and she is soaked in sweat and red all over. Her aid and I rushed over to clean her and put medicated cream on her skin. While we tried to get fluid in her aid proudly let me know that I reminded everyone that they had the power to help and people started calling the owners, state board, child services even. Two residents proudly told me that they called the police for a wellness check. So many people called and made a scene that the owners scrambled to get the woman back.

A few neighbors who saw the woman dumped even reported them to the police!

The absolute deluge of calls spooked the owners so bad they rushed to get the woman back to the facility before the news found out.

An investigation was started after that. I was told by the instructor that she didn’t feel comfortable having me around even though I was right and that she wouldn’t vouch that I preformed the hours I worked. I would have to start over with another instructor.

I asked her if she thought the part of the course that says you legally have to report neglect and abuse was optional.

Then I got my money back.

My sister let me know that the Owners of the facility decided to follow the law and got a case worker for that woman who found her family and was able to properly move her into a cheaper facility instead of dumping her on the street at a strangers door.

Which they should have done in the first place.

But packing her up and throwing out in the street was far quicker and cheaper. So that’s what they did. Had so many people not fought for her they might have gotten away with that.

I’m not surprised another facility resorted to having that 93 year old arrested. Majority of care facilities are all about money first and the actual residents well being last.

weaselle:

inthefallofasparrow:

hellyrgf:

teaboot:

brenna:

canthaveshitingotham-crucified:

canthaveshitingotham-crucified:

i hate it when i cant even write a poem about something because its too obvious. like in the airbnb i was at i guess it used to be a kids room cause you could see the imprint of one little glow in the dark star that had been missed and painted over in landlord white. like that’s a poem already what’s the point

you get it. you get the themes. i dont have time to do it justice. just look at it its on the ceiling

ALT

these exchanges and this fiddling about for the collective to appreciate in passing is, to me, true artistic spirit. I don’t know what the past was truly like to live, but in my heart i know that humans have always been… like this

powerjock:

shittymoviedetails:

The beach that makes you old

I can never seem to find her, but she always finds me

segretecose:

the pope’s silence on lesbianism among nuns is deafening

disgustinggf:

thepromiscuousfinger:

thepromiscuousfinger:

thepromiscuousfinger:

a-book-of-creatures:

kardds-arts:

depsidase:

i love this picture so much i drew it too

The original without the weird background removal:

Dog doctor completes urinalysis of a cat

Edinburgh, Univ. Db. 3.20, folio 25v

zelda-heritage-posts:

undeadentropy:

kennylogins:

hymnism:

help me

Zelda Heritage Post

powerbottombrucespringsteen:

I think movies need more sex and i also think that actors need to be uglier and less in shape

comatosecartesian:

jadagul:

prokopetz:

gragshash:

prokopetz:

Random headcanon: the reason that Peach and Bowser don’t seem to get a lot of respect in some Super Mario games is because the Mushroom Kingdom is kind of a rural backwater and isn’t terribly important or influential politically, so people tend to regard Bowser as a C-list villain for being so hung up on such an insignificant conquest. Nobody really expects Bowser to be a serious threat – that would be like expecting a guy whose main claim to fame is repeatedly failing to conquer Wyoming to be a serious threat – so they get taken by surprise every single time.

So what you’re saying is that Bowser is more or less on the same level of villainy as Dr. Doofenshmirtz?

Oh, quite the opposite – point him at any target that isn’t the Mushroom Kindgom and he’s this massive outside context problem that rolls over entire armies and cracks planets in half. It’s just the Mushroom Kingdom in particular he can’t seem to figure out, and that bothers him terribly.

The obvious implication is that, like, Mario is an A-tier hero who happens to live in a C-tier nation.

Like, if Clark Kent hadn’t moved to the big city for a reporting job, he’d still be Superman. And there’s be some villain who tried to knock over a bank in Bumfuck Kansas and wound up having a very bad day.

(And eventually we have Lex Luthor spending a huge amount of time trying and failing to run some penny-ante scheme in rural Kansas and failing, and no one can take him seriously despite the fact that he’s just as competent as he would be in canon.)

In Oregon there lives a species of snake capable of surviving tetrodotoxin doses strong enough to kill animals thousands of times their size. This is because they evolved alongside a species of poisonous newt which they consume regularly, which produces ludicrous amounts of a poison thousands of times stronger than cyanide. They got to this point by fighting each other in the same bumfuck nowhere habitat for millions of years. The newts got more toxic to fight the snakes. The snakes got better immunity to keep eating newts. Now we’re left with snakes capable of eating some of the most poisonous creatures alive, and newts so deadly that they are inedible to anything other than these snakes.

What I’m trying to say is that Mario and Bowser are the result of two evenly-matched overpowered idiots fighting the same battle for decades. The consequences only become clear when you square them up to literally anything else.

catchymemes:

ardourie:

actuallylgp-deactivated20240901:

It’s funny how a silly fictional character can come into your life and then take over your entire brain chemistry

stud-yawgmoth:

nylonlion:

It’s dishonest work and it’s a lot. And nobody needs to do it

incognito-mode-official:

scriobh-an-iontas:

lesbonym:

az-amaris:

ruxiecat121:

tatterdemallionsails:

midnightshiggy:

a-crimson-lion:

onceuponanovel:

notjustamumj:

wayward-chica91:

sonaspectrum:

evil-haiku-robot:

amelie-not-amelia:

narfoonthenet:

i-am-already-panicking:

larissaloki:

the-glitter-ace:

erynspencer2187:

erynspencer2187:

erynspencer2187:

someoneintheshadow456:

casgirlat221b:

fandom-is-my-middle-name:

clean-what-now:

thosekidswhohuntmonsters:

captain-ak84:

minimalistfish:

hawkgirl-in-the-impala:

chronic-genderbender:

“Those poor boys”

“She deserves to be punished too.”

“I’m not saying I support rape, but-”

“Sorry to say - she deserved it.”

“She put herself in harm’s way”

“But if she was fingered, then that’s not rape.”

“She ruined their lives.”

“Well she didn’t exactly say ‘no’..”

“Yea, but did you see what she was wearing?”

“Boys will be boys!”

“She should know better than to drink at a party…”

Cannot not reblog.

“She should have tried to enjoy–”

“She’s just saying something now for atten-“

boy am i glad this has so many notes

“But he’s a dude. That’s not ra-”

 

“He should’ve enjoyed it.”

“She must’ve lead him on.”

“But she orgasmed. That means she liked it - “

“She’s slept with so many people! She’s a slut-“

“Get over it, at least you’re still a virgin”

“Women can’t rape because…”

“Be grateful it wasn’t a man!”

“I’m sorry she hurt you but don’t call what happened to you rape, it’s an insult to the REAL victims…”

“You weren’t raped, you’re just lesbophobic.”

“She shouldn’t have posted provocative photos!”

“She shouldn’t have been dressed like that … she was asking for it!”

“It’s the woman’s responsibility to not put herself in dangerous situations, she should have been more aware.”

reblogging because it’s gotten even better since last time

I love this post!

“Well he paid for dinner, she kind of owed him.”

“She’s his wife, it’s her job to please him.”

“Oral isn’t rape.”

“Well he wasn’t armed, she could have walked away.”

“Guys can’t be raped, they love sex!”

“She didn’t fight back; it wasn’t rape.”

A good post

the day I do not reblog this is the day I’m buried six feet under

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I like that people included male rape victims as well! This is a good post

“They shouldn’t have gone out with someone they met online.”

always always reblog

Even my ghost shall reblog this.

The power of reblog compels you, mortals!

Dumb bitches really be saying this shit.

Rebloggum in perpetua

(Dont @ me, the bad Latin’s supposed to be bad)

“This is what adults do. Don’t be a baby.”

“You’re still a virgin? Don’t you want t get rid of that burden?”

“If you didn’t want this then you would leave.”

“I’ve never had any complaints. You’d enjoy it if you just stopped being so uptight.”

“You can’t get a guy all worked up and then not take care of what you caused.”

LOUD REBLOG.

VERY LOUD REBLOG TOO

“You were at a strip club”

“You were wearing a kilt, of course she’d assume it was ok to check if you were being ‘traditional’ about it”

“But she was so hot! You should feel lucky”

“It was just a kiss, no need to get so worked up about it”

“He was drunk, so she probably assumed that he’d be ok with it. He certainly seemed into it”

More has been added on and I could not have been happier.

legglesscat:

Oh and, by the way, asexual and aromantic people ARE queer.

Yes, even if they are heterosexual/romantic.

Yes, even if they are cis.

Yes, even if they aren’t considered ‘fully’ aromatic/asexual (greysexual, demi-romantic, ect.)

Yes, even if they are aromantic and romance favorable and/or asexual and sex favorable.

Yes, even if they don’t ‘act’ asexual and/or aromantic.

They are valid.

Shouldn’t we want to include as many people as possible??

Why the hell did anyone decide exclusion was a good idea? Does that not only hurt the queer movement?

legglesscat:

Oh and, by the way, asexual and aromantic people ARE queer.

Yes, even if they are heterosexual/romantic.

Yes, even if they are cis.

Yes, even if they aren’t considered ‘fully’ aromatic/asexual (greysexual, demi-romantic, ect.)

Yes, even if they are aromantic and romance favorable and/or asexual and sex favorable.

Yes, even if they don’t ‘act’ asexual and/or aromantic.

They are valid.

incognito-mode-official:

jackalopescruff:

jackalopescruff:

jackalopescruff:

jackalopescruff:

jackalopescruff:

jackalopescruff:

jackalopescruff:

hey yall ya girl got 14 application rejections this morning so if you wanna chip in so i can get lunch and dinner id be grateful bc i sure as hell am trying to get a job to eat in spite of it all!!

Support fangypeach on Ko-fi! ❤️

im still gonna need food the rest of the week so if you feel like helping keep a trans girl and her wifey fed while i keep job searching id be so grateful!!

Down to like $20 to my name and still applying to places can i get some money for dinner tonight again sorry

hey, uhm. im really sorry im struggling im trying i really am, i was filling job apps out at literally 5am this morning im trying my damndest but i need help still in the meantime. thanks for sharing and supporting <3

my debit card declined trying to grab a pot pie from the gas station i still definitely need a hand ‘w`;;

i have $24 and a $160 bill coming tomorrow indeed is telling me places are viewing my app but they sure arent replying!!!! please help a trans gal out ;;

hey yall that bill is due tonight and im not any closer to landing a job (did even more apps yet again this morning!) i really desperately need help to survive

@the-gimmick-simp bring the list. Make this spread.(/nf)

Followers. Also contribute please.

nobodylikesasecret-deactivated2:

grymmdark:

tuiccim:

Say it LOUDER!!!!

im not christian, but i have encountered so many transphobic christians that actually hearing someone in a position of authority in their religion actively support trans people makes me feel like maybe there is hope

happyroadkillart:

🇺🇸 🦅 🦅🦅

happyroadkillart:

happyroadkillart:

420technoblazeit:

420technoblazeit:

ok.

according to the wiki page this outfit is completely randomized btw she just happened to put me in a propeller hat jester shirt and bright blue pants like some kind of fuckign clown. idk how to feel about this

bigbigbigtruck:

eagerly awaiting the day daniel radcliffe, elijah wood, and robert pattinson just make the most fucked up bizarre unmarketable film together

happyroadkillart:

how this guy lost the war on drugs is a mystery to me

rustmarty:

this is what it feels like to open your notifications after you posted what u thought would be a banger but youve only gotten 1 like

cytochrome-sea:

nonhumans online call those webkinz

disgustinggf:

don’t worry i will be that one note on your terrible fucking posts. Because i love you. you fool

canis-dentem:

hello mutuals i am sniffing u with my nose. it is cold and wet. sorry