It’s frustrating that you can come up with the plot of an entire fic in just a few seconds, but writing it all down can take anywhere from never to forever.
I’ve seen some people starting a bit of discourse with the GoatLamb ship and stuff and saying that the GoatLamb is going to overthrown Narilamb etc, and i think a
PSA on Fandom Etiquette is in order just in case
Please for the love of lamb, for the shippers on Narilamb or Goatlamb, don’t start a ship war. I like the COTL fandom because is so chill, and fun, let’s keep it that way and just let people ship what they want.
You don’t like a ship? Simply ignore it.
Headcannons of the Lamb and Goat having a more platonic/brotherly relationship over a romantic one bother you? My brother in lamb the block button is right there if it bothers you that much
Narilamb truther 4 life? Curate your tumblr tags so you don’t see GoatLamb art. Easy!
Like or not like Nari×Goat×Lamb? Same as above my dude. Either block or curate your tags without having to be rude!
But please do not attack each other for this guys. Let’s keep the COTL fandom a fun place. Please i don’t want it to become another toxic dump waste fandom 😔
So have fun shipping and let people ship what they want! Remenber, shipping Is not a competition guys, is just silly fun!
i got paired up with a new therapist who specializes in and works primarily with neurodivergent patients. i felt comfortable enough to tell her that i’m autistic. she asked if i’ve ever received a formal diagnosis- i said no, because i’ve attempted in the past and i’ve been turned down because i’m “too articulate,” i “speak too well,” and they see my feminine deadname and that i’m legally AFAB and dismiss me, because “women can’t be autistic”.
my therapist told me that self-diagnosis is valid.
as we continued to talk through that session, she readily pointed out several autistic behaviors that i had been displaying without even realizing; i began infodumping about queer history and psychology without even realizing it, which she pointed out and then remarked that those are definitely special interests of mine. i felt floored. i knew these things about myself, but she acknowledged them effortlessly without hesitation.
in the next session, she pointed out that my tendency to re-analyze social interactions well past the time that they are over is also an autistic trait, and that i wasn’t ruminating anxiously, but rather that’s just how many autistic people process- we “over” analyze things in ways that allistics do not. it’s difficult for many of us to figure out the entirety of what’s happening in the moment, we process over time.
after that, she told me that during our next session, she wanted to spend that appointment talking about my special interests so she could get a better picture of me- specifically using that wording, calling them special interests.
after years of trying and failing to get acknowledgement for my neurotype, all it took was one therapist who specializes in neurodivergence to see the signs. one. sometimes all it takes is one person to make the difference. don’t give up if you think you are autistic and are struggling to get a diagnosis or just recognition for it. it doesn’t mean you’re wrong. the average allistic knows nothing about how autism actually presents itself, only what they know from media, memes and mean jokes. sometimes all it takes is meeting one person who knows what autism looks like.
this is lara, a cisgender butch woman who was hate-crimed by other women for trying to use a “female-only space”. a space, by their logic, she should have been able to use and is apparently meant to be her safe space.
this is the result of terf transphobia. please remember lara and others like her next time terfs claim that they care about butch women or that you can “always tell”.
I’m so sorry this happened to you, lara 💔 🫂
t*rfs have been cropping up in my notes a lot recently yet it’s been 12 hours and they are so far completely silent about this. ironic, that.
Spicy-brained friends, I would like to propose an update to the very useful ‘if you hate everyone, eat, if everyone hates you, sleep, and if you hate yourself, shower’ mantra to live by
Have you suddenly become a petty, hateful little gremlin who thinks people should face the firing squad for (checks notes) leaving teabags on the counter, breathing loudly, or daring to exist in the same space as you? Perhaps mundane and reasonable requests like ‘hey, we agreed to hang out now, let’s hang out’ make you want to scream and move to a yurt in the woods.
You. Are. Overstimulated.
People talk a lot about being overstimulated, and the physical/mental effects of it. What I haven’t seen is people talking about what it does emotionally, and it took
me an embarassingly long time to link up those nitpicky, resentful emotions with the state of overstimulation/meltdown/shutdown.
These feelings do not mean that you’re a bad person! They probably aren’t how you actually feel about the people around you. They probably do mean that your nervous system is at its absolute limit and any request/demand/stimulus is Too Much and taking you into fight or flight territory.
Go lie down in a dark room for an hour, or find somewhere safe and familiar to stim for a bit. If it’s happening a lot, schedule yourself regular low-stimulation shutdown time
Signed: someone who moved in with their nearest and dearest only to have a massive crisis of faith about Suddenly Hating All of Them. I don’t hate them, it’s just overstimulating living with people. If I can spare anyone else a similar 9 months of suspecting that they may actually be a bit of a shit person, then this post is worth it!
you might especially feel this way if someone picks up on your bad mood, but all their kind suggestions make you want to bite and scream. in my experience that’s not because you hate them or even the suggestion, it’s probably because *any* new information or ideas, no matter how gentle, is just Too Many Thoughts. this is when it helps a lot to have a plan in advance, even if the plan is just “take medication” or “go to hidey-hole,” because trying to think of a solution in the moment might be beyond you.
(also if ur overstimulated, it’s often worth checking if you need to eat/sleep/shower as well, because that might be part of what’s overstimulating you!)
chronic pain is also a source of overstimulation
Wait. That last one. Chronic pain being a source of overstimulation. This explains my general mood 99% of the time. Why I never realized…
Here I just thought I was being An Awful Person™️ (for merely having the thoughts; I never treat anyone poorly)
I was going to post some Choice Horrifying Quotes from the article, but turns out the whole thing is a horror story and i’m just.
the fact that they got trapped and pulled in and thought they might die three times and were still like “hey what if we do one more” and only didn’t die because they decided to have a meal first??
yeah you wouldn’t need to change anything for this to be a TMA episode i absolutely agree, the damn thing already tried to kill them three times
okay guys u gotta read it. I was making highlights but it turned into a summary. still. read it. so worth it.
Ok so two people sink down to look around. Jill and her partner. First glimpse of horror (lots and lots of sea creatures) happens. But everything is pretty and they continue on
That’s the sound of their way in collapsing btw.
They find a way out. And then proceed to dive in again
they get out again.
The photos are sublime. So next day, Wes decided, hey, i want to go with you. Remember the camera i tested? We’re going to take even better pictures with it.
so they dive
and the current picks up again
Dude.
They got sucked in, obv. Water pouring down, the three try to get out. Fail. There’s no way up.
And then Jill decides to show human determination and ingenuity. Holy shit.
They get out. They see the boat with the science team, reaching for them. They’re late for two hours, but alive.
i did not manage to find the iceberg photos, but her other stuff is breathtaking
Still remember when a homo- and transphobic acquaintance tried to bring up JKR’s views on trans people in conversation and I shut it down with «oh yeah she’s been saying a lot of dumb shit on Twitter after she finished writing Harry Potter, like when she claimed Dumbledore was gay, just to be politically correct», which made it absolutely impossible for him to admit that he agreed with anything JKR had ever said. Sometimes you just have to weaponise people’s homophobia against their transphobia.
Other ways to stop family members/acquaintances from going on bigoted rants:
«Isn’t this all a bit silly? I mean, I’m more concerned about the economy/the war in Ukraine/covid/my job» - weaponised whataboutism
«Do you work with a lot of trans people? Because it seems like this is a problem you frequently encounter in everyday life from the way you talk about it» and when they say they don’t, follow up with «well then I don’t see what you’re making such a fuss about»
«Idk, I haven’t been much on social media lately, I think Twitter is a waste of time» - make them feel like they’re the ones who are terminally online
«Idk, I’m not that concernced with other people’s genitals and sex lives» - creep shaming
The point is that I’ve used all of these in various contexts and they’ve saved a good number of dinner table conversations from derailing into pointless debating. You don’t de-radicalise friends and family members by entering into political discussions they initiate just to stir up shit. You de-radicalise them by shifting the focus away from their shitty opinions and onto the things you have in common and the practical everyday stuff that exists outside their internet echo chambers.
as an optimist i dream of a beautiful world where people are fucking normal about aromanticism
At first I read “as an optometrist” and was just ready to accept the statement as is like oh yeah maybe some kind of pun about if people’s views weren’t clouded by hatred and biases they could be normal about aro and aspec in general but then I reread it was like “sigh, time for my nearsighted ass to go back to the optometrist.”
as an optimist i dream of a beautiful world where all these beautiful aromantic people get to go to the optometrist
i think that all the people who argue about gender by saying “the woke left cant even define a woman” need to get hit with the “who are you” question by a buddhist monk. no, thats your name, who are you. no thats your profession, who are YOU. no you fucking idiot thats your species, who are YOUU. dumb bitch u cant even define yourself
shortest possible answer: So that you’re not involved in the next My Lai massacre or the next Kunduz Hospital airstrike
My father joined the US Army to provide healthcare to his family. As a result, he was directly involved in war crimes in Kosovo, where his battalion (101st Airborne) bombed schools and hospitals!
Nothing the US military can promise, be it healthcare, housing, “life experience”, travel, or tuition, is worth the atrocities you will be responsible for or complicit in.
Reblog this if you support sex-averse and sex-repulsed aces, including:
Aces who never want to have sex
Aces who had sex in the past but don’t desire it anymore
Aces with sexual trauma who feel like their trauma ties into their asexuality
Aces with sexual trauma who don’t feel like their trauma caused their asexuality
Aces who don’t want to talk to you about sex
Aces who don’t want to hear about sex
Yes even aces who do not want to engage with any sexual content and don’t want it in their own personal spaces
Yes even aces who express the desire to have more spaces for queer adults where their boundaries are met (on top of the queer spaces that exist, we do not want to sanitize your existing spaces ffs)
If you cannot be normal about these people existing, if you believe they’re a threat to our community and to how we’re viewed by people who aren’t aspec and the rest of the LGBTQ+ community, you are not an asexual ally. Yes, even if you’re aspec yourself. Especially if you’re aspec yourself.
Because it’s been pride month for 4 days and I’m already seeing people trying to throw us under the bus or pretend we don’t exist because that makes the ace community more palatable to exclusionists and people who swallowed too much “aces are puritans” propaganda.
jewish gay pride flags, not associated with israel in any way and should be allowed to be flown by jews:
israeli gay pride flags, associated with the colonialist state of israel and should not be flown:
notice how the second set have the white bar in the middle like the israeli flag, or contain the israeli flag themself, while the first set is simply a pride flag with the star of david.
if people could spread this i’d be grateful, i’ve seen so many antisemitic takes on this topic on one side and so many zionist takes on the other side.
i’ve seen too many people arguing that marcille was already a full grown adult when she went to school at 35 despite literally all of the canon evidence indicating otherwise
wheres that picture of like the performers at the bolshoi or somewhere reading about gagarin going into space during intermission while all still in costume
hell fucking yes
When playing Civilization and someone gets a Science Victory
