The letdown of learning another language is that it doesn’t matter how fluent you get, you’ll never fully appreciate why certain combinations of phonemes sound inherently ridiculous to native speakers, because that part is almost 100% deep-rooted cultural context. Like, I’m reliably informed by folks I know who grew up speaking Japanese that many popular anime characters have names that sound just as absurd to native Japanese speakers as most anime characters with “American” names sound to Anglophones, and I have to take their word for it because there’s no way for me to ever really get it.
white americans when you tell them that the idea of climate change as an impending disaster is a reductive first world perspective because it’s a tangible reality for many in the global south already:
maybe if you see south and southeast asians dying in the heat and latin americans dying in floods and all you think of is imagining a reality where YOU are affected, then you should rethink how you see people of color. if you cannot see climate change as a real disaster until it is other americans dying in the heat and the floods and not just black and brown people, then don’t talk about climate change until you can acknowledge the grim reality of climate change for everyone.
Also it is already a reality in the northern hemisphere even if you’ve been privileged enough to not be truly affected by it. But a lot of white liberals don’t really see that either, given tornados and hurricanes mainly affect southern states. They don’t care that the southwest is in major drought without any signs of letting up. They don’t care that tribes in the Pacific Northwest are losing their land to raising seas, or that Arctic natives are losing their traditional food ways. The extreme temperatures, both hot and cold, are killing the unhoused. There is major flooding in central Europe and the UK temperatures are only getting hotter and hotter.
It’s happening and it’s been happening and it’s going to keep happening.
Someone anonymously messaged me to tell me that writing about detrans folks makes me a traitor to trans people, because all detrans people want to push conversion therapy on us and forcibly detransition us.
That’s precisely the kind of narrative that ends up pushing detransitioners into the arms of TERFs and the religious far-right.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with detransitioning. Sometimes people realize that transitioning no longer suits them, or never really did. And that’s fine.
When we systematically push them away regardless of their politics, we make people feel like the only places they can get support are among transphobes. That’s not a good thing. Building de/trans solidarity is an critical tool for disarming anti-trans movements.
You have here, writings that detail Indigenous topics covering or in the style of: manifestos, creative writings, political, cultural, “feminist”, environment/ecosystems, and Natural Law.
Enjoy the readings!
Didn’t know this. BOOST
I would add Schumacher lectures by John Mohawk, and another by Oren Lyons titled ‘The Ice is Melting’. Not pdf’s but available online in their entirety.
A while back my psychopathology class did a basic overview of gender terms because we need to understand it to understand what the statistics we’ were given mean, and all I could think of was that xkcd quartz comic.
A guy said sex was “biological gender,” another guy said that a sex that is neither male nor female is nonbinary, and another guy said that a person who’s gender does not align with their sex is “gay.”
why is it when you go to a hair salon as a transmasc/nb person and go “i want something very short and simple. masculine. here’s a photo of a man. that’s how i want my hair to look.” without fail your middle aged hairdresser is like “yes. right. i know exactly what you’re looking for. let me just ….. snip snip” and you come out of there like 2007 kate gosselin
Ok so: I’m cis female but had this problem, in that I could never get them to cut my hair short enough. I eventually found ways to get them to cooperate though - and this was with hair I was sporting from 15-23, so you can probably get them to take you seriously. Keep in mind, though, that a lot of these tips will involve recognizing that you’ve already been misgendered and voluntarily running with that.
First of all, just go to a barbershop instead of a hair salon, if you can. It’s cheaper anyway, and you’re far more likely to get what you want from either a place where every employee has ten tattoos minimum, or from someone who’s mis-aging you not misgendering you
Barring that, e.g. If there’s only one shop nearby or your parents control where you go, pick the stylist with the wildest hair or most tattoos
If you can do so, make yourself sound like a huge lesbian the whole time. I could never get a middle aged white woman to actually take clippers my head if I hadn’t already talked about my (usually imaginary) girlfriend
If you like having your hair clipped/shaved, find out what numbers they use on you next time someone does it right, then tell everyone moving forward. Some still won’t believe you, but saying “I want a 2 into a 5” was always a lot more effective than “I want it shaved up”
Don’t tell them it’s fine until it is. I know this is something we’re socialized into accepting but this is true regardless of who you are and what hair cut you’re getting. If you’re not satisfied, say so. So what if they get annoyed? They’re not doing their job right. You’re paying for a service, you deserve it done the way you want.
On a related note, bribery will get you everywhere. If you live in a place where tipping is normal, and you can afford it, then come prepared with extra cash. If they do it right without you complaining, tip them well and say “hey, you’re the only stylist who’s actually listened, thank you.” If they need more convincing - especially if your parents are the ones paying and you know they’re trying not to piss them off - pull out a $10 or so and go “look, seriously, I will tip you extra if you just cut it boy-short”. It motivated a few ladies for me, when it was an option.
If all else fails, make up a reason you need it that short. You’re playing a character in the school play. You want to piss off your parents/ex/sister. Protest. “My friend has cancer and I want to make her feel less alone”. Yeah, lying sucks, but sometimes you gotta.
Hope that helps!!
Don’t tell them it’s fine until it is
As a real life stylist I cannot stress this enough. This is the most important part of the cut because if you’re smiling in the chair and crying at home it means I’m not doing my job.
And I also second the barber shop for the first haircut because once you come in with short hair and tell a stylist you want it shaved back down the majority of them won’t hesitate.
sometimes i worry that we will run out of moths. i fear we are moving through them at an alarming rate. i scroll through this blog and i see the amount of posts that have already been identified as moths and i think, how many more moths are left? many i hope. i love moths.
isn’t it insane though how schizophrenic people are viewed as violent and dangerous by the majority of society when in reality schizophrenic people are nearly 14 times more likely to be on the receiving end of violence than to be the perpetrators…
schizophrenic person: makes a post trying to raise awareness about the disproportionate abuse and harmful stereotypes schizophrenic people face
yall: “yeah im not gonna reblog this they used the word ins*ne which is so problematic ://”
What the fuck happens that changes these stats to such a massive degree?
1) schizophrenia hardly ever causes people to be violent so schizophrenic people aren’t more likely to be violent than anyone else
2) schizophrenic people’s autonomy is often taken away from them because of their schizophrenia. because the authorities and mental healthcare providers often automatically assume schizophrenic people to be violent, they’re more likely to immediately react to schizophrenic people’s symptoms with violence, without even knowing for sure said schizophrenic person was going to be violent. all of this causes schizophrenic people to be more likely of being victims of violence and abuse. schizophrenic people also have a harder time getting out of abusive households because of the risk of their autonomy being taken away. if a schizophrenic person’s relative or partner is abusive, often the schizophrenic person has no way out of the situation, both because our disconnect from reality can result in us being easier to manipulate, and because the system is built in a way that it takes away our autonomy because of our condition.
also schizophrenic people and psychotic people in general, please do a lot of research before picking a provider for your own sake, and if they try to treat your psychosis in a way that you think is harmful then don’t hesitate to switch providers. your safety and wellbeing should be a priority over everything else.
can y'all please reblog this version instead
Sure thing! That was very well-written catgirlapologist also i feel sad that is true.
not submission. I really hate the "My OC, my rules" thing. Cause like, no? Just because they are your oc doesn't mean you can do whatever you want with them. If you want to make your oc suffer and not like them get help, you deserve to lose rights over them. Especially if you only do that stuff to purposely trigger people. Once you do that, your oc no longer belongs to you. they belong to the public who will take better care of them instead
i know i said the last one would be the last time but im fucked. like I’m completely fucked.
tl;dr: dumbfucks scheduled my surgery at a place that can’t do my surgery and didn’t tell me until two days in advance. It’s been moved, but I’ve already taken weeks off work, and now I’ll need to take even more time off to actually recover. I need help paying for rent.
I know bigger shit is happening right now. I’m sorry. I’m living paycheck to paycheck. Please help me out if you can. please reblog if you can’t send me anything.
I’m adding the bare minimum I’ll need for rent this month and how much i’ve gotten here so people can understand the situation. i’ll include my own paycheck as well.
120/580
If you’re going to vote in the poll please at least reblog it. it’s very disheartening to not even have 1/3 the number of reblogs as votes.
Getting a bit sick of all the “ooh I’m so glad Laios has a soft body!” “Laios is built like an average guy” style posts. Because he doesn’t and isn’t.
Laios is built like a fucking professional wrestler. He isn’t like, super chiseled or anything but he does not have an “average” body, he his built like someone who does a LOT of physical effort and training.
