My ideal aesthetic is what I’m calling “sexy tomboy”. That is to say, I am 100% femme through and through, but I want to look like what a straight man’s idea of a “masculine woman” is. I wanna be masc in the way that LaCroix is fruit flavored, just a little extra something to make things a little more interesting
This you?
I don’t think I’ll ever recover from this one
[ begin id: a color photo of Taylor Swift. She is wearing a flannel with the sleeves rolled up, and her hair is in a low pony tail. / end id ]
i am on episode 2 of dead boy detectives. in under two minutes, the cat king has out-twinked everyone on screen in front of a mauled corpse, kidnapped Edwin to some kind of bedroom, called out his repressed gayness, declared his kingdom to be of want and pleasure, and introduced the idea of bdsm
sir (gn) leave some weird slay for the rest of us please
OH MY BILDADDY HE JUST BREATHED “YOU ARE SO ODDLY HANDSOME YOU FASCINATE ME” AND FUCKING MAGICKED HIS SHIRT OFF AND A FUR CAPE ON
HE PUT WHAT IS ESSENTIALLY A LEASH ON HIM THEY ARE DISCUSSING WHAT WOULD MAKE THE CAT KING HAPPY THIS IS NOT A DRILL
I SMELL…
HOMOSEXUALITY.
oh my god this is beautiful Edwin is so sassy Crystal is so sassy Charles is so sassy they are all so HMMGH
i was just appreciating how edwin and charles were squabbling and crystal was just watching with the most DONE expression
and then suddenly edwin and CRYSTAL are arguing and charles has gone here we go and literally flopped onto the bed to watch them
these three omg
oh and i forgot to mention the cat king literally propositioning edwin before saying he’s a ‘fair and consensual cat king’ and sending him on a pointless errand
something I think more people need to understand is that rape culture has a very simple way to maintain the plausible deniability that enables mass support and investment, and that is the complete separation of the rhetorical construction of “The Rapist” and “The Pedophile” from any actual specific person who engages in sexual violence.
so often people do not believe that we could possibly live in a rape culture, they do not believe it could possibly be true that people do not care about children who were sexually abused– they say but everyone hates rapists and pedophiles! but that’s not really true. they hate the conceptual idea of The Rapist and The Pedophile, but do not actually oppose–in real world contexts, with real actual complicated people–the use of sexual violence to control, degrade, and otherwise abuse other people. they do not hate their friend who joked that their date “took some convincing” or their neighbor who publicly humiliated their adolescent child by telling their church group he was “caught” masturbating, or the cop who performs cavity searches or the guy who posted tips for “stealthing” online, or their uncle who says he “made some mistakes with women” when he was younger, or the person on social media publicly speculating about a stranger’s sexual desires and sharing their nudes to degrade and humiliate them, or their granddad who was “falsely accused” of sexually abusing his daughter when “all he did” was leer and not touch, or their professor who has relationships with their students, or their acquaintance who recommends dating girls with “issues”, girls who are “crazy”, girls who are trans or fat or queer or have low self-esteem, because “they’ll do anything”, or the person they organize with who is so valuable to the movement but everyone kind of knows not to be alone in a room with them, or…
specific people who rape are usually not the deviant that most people already want a reason to expel from the community, they are the center of power and influence. they provide vital support or resources to people, they are likable and intimately connected with many people, they have an embedded role in the social fabric and many people benefit from it (whether economically, politically, spiritually, etc). Specific people who rape are incredibly buoyant. They are usually buoyed to places of power no matter how far they’re attempted to be pulled down from that power, and most people see this and will cling to a person like this, defending them, because people who rape are the social equivalent to a life preserver, whereas people who have been raped are the social equivalent of an anchor– no one wants to be dragged down by allying themselves with the person who was raped by the beloved person everyone loves and relies on.
On the other hand, The Rapist" and “The Pedophile” as cultural tropes are treated very differently from specific people who have raped others. “The Rapist”/“The Pedophile” is often a racialized, gendered, and classed archetype that exists to be the ideological load bearing pillar of rape culture, to reinforce the belief (against the weight of evidence) that rape is something committed by Deviant Others who can be identified and expelled from social life. When sexual violence is not understood as one of many possible tactics of control and is instead as the result of the uncontrollable desire of innate deviants, then accusations do not even require there to be a specific person who was harmed by a specific act. All you need is evidence of “deviance” and all the justified anger at sexual violence can be offloaded onto whatever scapegoat you want.
In fact, within rape culture, harassment campaigns are much more successful than any actual instance of a survivor asking for support. That is no coincidence either! Rape culture hates survivors! But because in harassment campaigns there is no actual survivor speaking up, rape culture’s default of disbelieving specific, actual survivors is never triggered, and so the accusation becomes perceived as more credible because there is no victim to discount.
If there is no actual specific instance of someone engaging in sexual abuse of another specific person, there are no details to question and pick apart (“but why was she naked if she didn’t want to have sex?” “was he really raped if he had an orgasm?” “how do you know it was sexual? adults have to bathe their kids” “why did she post that photo if she didn’t want it shared?” “I’ve never seen that side of him!” “maybe you misunderstood” “maybe she didn’t hear the safeword” “why wait until now to bring it up?”) and no demands of the public that implicate them and demand change from them (are you sending survivors funds to help them move out? to help them afford therapy? are you examining why you didn’t notice it was happening or didn’t believe it could be true? are you able to understand that as part of this person’s community, you failed to protect them, and that actual restorative justice involves you changing your beliefs and behavior too? that it’s not just about rehabilitating the person who raped someone?)
If there’s no survivor, then the imagined victim can be perfect, innocent, and worthy to rally around. The imagined victims are only good and only hurt and have no problematic opinions about anything (no opinions at all! so they can be imagined to believe whatever you believe), no burdensome expectations of you, no resentment towards you.
Focusing on identifying “The Rapist” as a deviant instead is so easy; it only requires condemning someone who you probably either already dislike or a complete stranger who has no direct connection to your life. It’s so much easier to pin responsibility for the entire (abstracted) concept of Rape onto someone you already hate and is already a social outcast and show how much you’re “against rape” by venting all your anger and fantasized violence against them. It feels good too! the way righteous anger always does. It can be energizing when a whole community comes together to hate the same person.
Supporting actual survivors does not feel energizing, it feels exhausting. It requires so much work and effort, and you don’t feel righteous while you do it, you may even feel ashamed, frustrated, deeply sad, resentful, angry, hopeless, or emotionally numb. It enters the deepest parts of your consciousness and you find it hard to breathe during certain scenes in movies, seeing certain arguments play out in the news cycle. It changes you, too, and that is the point.
We want to be against rape culture, because we want to be good people. but we don’t want it to be hard.
I think this reality is the reason why a lot of young organizers think they can throw themselves into restorative justice and then find themselves completely burnt out a few months or a year later. People start thinking it’ll be energizing, and then have to contend with the reality of what is, essentially, providing material support for disabled people whose health and capabilities have been permanently decreased from trauma. Some folks think they’re gonna be “fixing things” so everyone can continue their reliance on the person who raped someone and the survivor can “move on” and everything can be “restored.”
And then (if they’re serious and not just performing at activism) they are inevitably faced with the terrifying reality of trying to make ends meet, with cobbling together strategies to meet community needs outside of the person who everyone relies on. they are faced with this person who raped someone losing interest after a few meetings and deciding “the accountability process” is dragging on too long and interrupting “more serious things than one person’s emotions.” they are faced with trying to get more people involved supporting the acute needs of the survivor even when the survivor is “difficult” or “ungrateful”, and realizing that no one wants to do it. it is overwhelming to realize how deep the roots of rape culture run through everything, how much stability is upturned when you uproot any structures and beliefs that rely on rape culture. it is deeply demoralizing when you realize nothing can change without collective effort and very few care enough to do it.
It’s so much easier to do nothing and pretend you don’t know what happened. It’s so much easier to decide it doesn’t have anything to do with you and maybe this is something the survivor should “work out” with the person who raped them. It’s so much easier to not try.
that’s the function of rape culture. and we are all implicated in it.
To everyone else I’m all “You will never annoy me and I love you so much” but then about myself I’m like “I swear those words were meant to sound cooler do you still like me, you probably don’t and I don’t blame you, you could set me on fire and I’d apologise. Anyway, sorry.”
hi it’s lesbian visibility week. i am a struggling lesbian as i was in the hospital last week and the week before. please consider helping me out if you have the ability.
it is no longer lesbian visibility week, but currently in deep shit, and i need about 450 dollars by the end of the day thanks to my bank pulling a bunch of money out of my account as my rent was being paid and now im kind of SOL im doing my best. but if anyone could help it would mean a ton. thank you so much.
Recently, while staring far too long at a potato chip, it occurred to me that the ridges could possibly be used to create a lenticular effect. So I got out some chip dip (and the smallest paint brush I have) to test it out. I started with a simple 2-frame illustration of a football and a basketball, then I painted a little sour cream and onion dip bird. 🥔🕊️ - via my new @brockdavisart instagram
still sometimes think about how when my apartment got raided by cops back in 2021 i had a massive neon sign on the wall of my living room that just said “crime”
elon musk had a third child with grimes that he kept secret until the release of his biography. he named it techno mechanicus
can you imagine being an adult nepo baby at a company your rich dad invested in and having to walk into the boardroom first day like. hi everyone. my name is techno mechanicus
I can tell this is fake because “techno mechanicus” doesn’t start with X
OH SON OF A BITCH
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I haven’t been reblogging this post because I genuinely assumed you guys were Goncharoving a nepo baby
they used to make smackable technology. you used to be able to hit your tv when it didn’t work good.
when I was a kid I had an old tv in my room that would always turn to unwatchable static in the middle of shows but one night my sister and I were watching Naruto & every time Kakashi was on-screen the static cleared so we were like “hahaha the tv looooves Kakashi.”
I had a Kakashi bookmark so we held it up against the screen as a joke but the static actually cleared up. Mystified, we tried different bookmarks and objects with the same plastic material but nothing else worked, only the Kakashi bookmark.
We ended up taping it to the corner of the screen and it stayed there for 11 years until we moved out. When I was older people would be like “can you move the bookmark off the screen” bc it did sort of block a bit of the view but I would demonstrate the static issue and everyone was always just like “huh. what the hell?? well…alright.”
i’m sorry but this is the only submission to this trend that i’ll consider giving any thought to
i say this with 100% sincerity: if you want to know who monica lewkinsky is, she’s the person who deserves to be back in the white house more than any person alive and she should get full rights to execute any 1990s comedians of her choice by firing squad. she deserves to be on the $20 bill and have her own monument on the national mall, but instead she’s happy with reclaiming the narrative. she should have been america’s people’s princess instead of diana. we don’t deserve her.
Okay, so I did google her and the scandal you mentioned in the tags, and I have two things to say
1. Holy shit
2. Yeah, I think she has the best one for the trend
Somehow, it is one thing to know that people born after 9/11 are now adults, but it is another entirely to understand that there is a cohort of adults who don’t know who Monica Lewinsky is.
Please correct me if I’m wrong but didn’t she get famous for blowing the president? That’s about as much as I was ever told about her
Yup. She was perfectly willing and able to walk away. She chose to take part.
She’s been riding that train ever since.
… she was an intern at the White House. Imagine being an intern at the White House right out of college decades before the current wave of feminism. And the *president of the nation* asks you to blow him in the Oval Office. And you want to work in the white house as your full-time job. Do you deny him? Suppose you don’t want to do it. Can you deny him?
I’m thrilled by the modern-day attitudes about this. Genuinely, the way this would go in 2024 is that the intern could say no and tell the press what happened and half of America would support them. But when I was a kid? No way!
And Monica Lewinsky didn’t ride a train to fame from this situation. She was America’s laughingstock and punching bag for twenty years. She was the butt of every sex joke and the least respected person that everyone knew the name of. She couldn’t live any sort of remotely normal life or do the things that she wanted to do because every single person, including all members of the press and every comedian, was out to get her. Every “cancelled” celebrity nowadays pretends they’ve been treated the way Monica Lewinsky was and you know what, she’s right that they wouldn’t last an hour in her shoes.
I’m very happy about the cultural shift that has allowed her to come back into the public again. You have to understand how recent this shift was.
i was watching whose line is it anyway (which i love) and while i know it’s a product of its time, i was totally taken aback by the sheer vitriol in which they delivered jokes about her. complete and utter disdain for her and her physical appearance. i was genuinely shocked by how much hate and belittlement they and the audience had for her. and bill clinton was never mocked or mentioned in the same breath. this post is not exaggerating.
times haven’t changed as much as we’d like, but the treatment of stormy daniels is honestly a breath of fresh air in comparison. perhaps it’s an echo chamber but i never saw her the butt of the joke in comedy specials or any hate for her in person. trump is the one seen as the lowlife. the affairs aren’t super comparable, but still.
vegans making honey a bee labour issue is the funniest thing imaginable because like, you picked the one animal that has already unionised
You literally could not exploit bees if you TRIED
“Oh well if you stop the queen leaving the bees are trapped” wrong, bees can and will swarm without a queen. They will also make new queens if they don’t think theirs is good enough
“Bees don’t consent to their honey being taken” wrong, bees are actually more than intelligent enough to know we take the honey. They LET us take the honey if they think what we provide in return (shelter, food, protection) is a fair deal.
“Taking honey starves the bees” WRONG AGAIN! Domestic bees overproduce honey. A beekeeper NEVER takes honey the bees would need because then you piss off the bees, and if you piss off the bees you don’t have any bees. They stockpile honey for the winter, but because domestic colonies do way better than wild ones they stockpile too much. That’s why beekeepers can take out whole frames and then have them filled in no time. Domestic bees actively overproduce because they know humans are going to skim some off the top.
And if they didn’t want humans to take it, beekeeping WOULD NOT work.
To keep bees you have to let them fly free. If they can fly free they can leave. Meaning if they don’t like what you’re doing, they WILL leave.
The whole idea they’re basically slaves to the queen is also not true, they can just make a new queen literally whenever, and if they don’t like her, they kill her.
There is no way for a beekeeper to exploit their bees. The bees are EMPLOYEES.
reblog if you want more interaction w your lovely followers
Yes
when i say flood my inbox, i mean flood it. go wild y’all.
it’s true please do i ask this literally all the t i m e but it’s still so t r u e do not worry about being annoying i am literally never annoyed please just,, interact
I love interaction :D
Go ham kids
Yes please!
Yes please
Please!
^^^^
Like seriously. Please. Random questions, go!
Random bullshit go!
even tho it’s already happening IM STILL GONNA FUCKING REBLOG THIS SHIT!!!
Go wild
>:D
I love interacting with fans. They’re always so sweet
my ask box is literally always open for any random shit yall might wanna send there
Go crazy ya’ll
Please, yell into the void!
pleaseeee
PLEASE
Yes! Please! Do that!
mhm. please.
im lonely
Please completely flood my inbox. I actively invite it.
“average person eats 3 spiders a year” factoid actualy just statistical error. average person eats 0 spiders per year. Spiders Georg, who lives in cave & eats over 10,000 each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted
If you’re European, in a couple of weeks you will be denied any and all access to fandom contents on Tumblr and everywhere else on the internet. Here’s why.
On June, 20th the JURI of European Parliament approved of the articles 11 and 13 of the new Copyright Law. These articles are also known as the “Link Tax” and the “Censorship Machines” articles.
Articles 13 in particular forces every internet platform to filter all the contents we upload online, ending once and for all the fandom culture. Which means you won’t be able to upload any type of fandom works like fan arts, fan fictions, gif sets from your favourite films and series, edits, because it’s all copyrighted material. And you won’t also be able to share, enjoy or download other’s contents, because the use of links will be completely restricted.
But not everything’s lost yet. There’s another round of voting scheduled for the early days of July.
What you can do now to save our internet, is to share these informations with all of your family members and friends, and to ask to your MEP (the members of the European Parliament from your country) to vote NO at the next round, to vote against articles 11 and 13.
Here you can find more news and all the details to contact your MEP:
I reblogged this last month, tagged it, and said “might as well see if it works.” I used this video as a reference to find all the forms that i needed (which is A LOT, especially if you’re a dependent) and sent them through the mail, not really allowing myself to hope.
dude.
$2,714 of medical debt from my top surgery - gone. im shaking this was such a weight on me for 2 years and it fucking worked. what the fuck.
re-reblogging and thinking about when i have another collection agency calling that i can just do this
Yo this is such good info to have
Cheers Americans, have fun with this one
Being recently disabled this is going to relieve a FUCK TON of weight holy SHIT
This website has a clickable map where you can see suspected and confirmed sundown towns by state, as well as information about whether these attitudes are historical or current.
REBLOG IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT BLOG YOU ARE THIS IS GONNA SAVE SOMEONE
I am poc too and i am scared for my LIFE when i go to the south. please stay safe.
I am not poc but I know this could save someone’s life. Please reblog and spread the message.
My obligatory addition to this every time it crosses my dash, because I know the link is definitely missing ones in my own (northern) state and there are some in this thread not on the above link either - thread by LeVar Burton with a LOT of replies from people naming the sundown towns near them:
I’d never, ever hurt a lady but I’d be happy to punch a feminist.
It’d bring me great joy.
I’m 6’2 and weigh 180lbs
ready when you are
Or if you’d like to have some more options….
I’m 6’4” 228 pounds and have 9 years of combined martial arts training and 3 years of being a Line Backer in football. Just in case you are looking for variety.
what about a lady and a feminist. warning, combatives certified soldier.
im tiny, i’m like 5′4 and 130 lbs but u can fight me too
Reblogging for the last one cuz that’s adorable
SO PROUD
The Fantastic 4 we deserve
OMG IVE ONLY SEEN THIS POST IN SCREEN SHOTS
We will all protect the small one.
I stan
it got better!!
plot-twist: the small one could actually kick everyone’s ass
If one day I see this on my dash and DON’T reblog it assume I’m dead.
(Since they’re the only active accounts left on this post)
Like every account here is deactivated. I feel like an archaeologist.
Oh and I’m like under 5 ft and like 78 pounds but I can stand at the side and say things like ‘Yeah! You deserve it!’ the next time an anti feminist turns up and we decide to beat them up.
this is a tumblr classic
I saw this on Pinterest and I am so honoured to now have this on my dash!
hey guys. i hate to have to ask this but i am in need of some help. not only do i need to get a new tire for my car, but there is a leak in the coolant line. i live paycheck to paycheck to support me and my fiance and i cannot afford to get this fixed. i have asked my parents for financial help, and they are unable to do so. if you guys can help me at all or spread the word, that would be really helpful. again, only help if you can afford it. thank you guys so much.
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