hey hey HEY. when i joined tumblr in the early 2010s i remember a lot of millennials swearing they would never treat the younger generation as badly as they were treated and misrepresented. i’m seeing a lot of you going back on that. stop mocking young people and start remembering you were new to the universe too once
Rapists, and killers, too? Really? (Those on death-row?) The drug/prostitution problems are just a portion of USA criminals.
yes, all criminals. the moment you say “except X criminal” is the moment that people will try to convict their opponents as having committed X crime.
it’s the same thing as what’s going on right now with people equating drag to some sort of child exploitation. “but the children!!” they wail, and people listen because oh, if drag is harming children, then drag MUST be BAD, so we HAVE TO BAN DRAG.
do you understand what i’m saying? you can’t take away the rights of any category of criminal, because suddenly that category will be overflowing with people who totally 100% definitely committed that horrible crime.
Rapists and killers already vote, those in prison may as well too. Not every person like that is in prison, and not every person in prison is like that.
Let them vote? I guarantee you’d see change
yes also this, i honestly didn’t even think about that so thank you for bringing it up!!
Utah will become the third state to restrict trans persons from using bathrooms in buildings other than schools, alongside Florida and North Dakota. However, the legislation in Utah is of a different caliber as North Dakota’s bill only applies to correctional facilities and dorms and Florida’s legislation only applies to government-owned buildings.
In accordance with the bill, trans individuals could also be charged with voyeurism and/or criminal trespass if they use publicly owned bathrooms that align with their gender. According to Utah’s law, these class B Misdemeanors are punishable with up to six months in jail and a fine starting at $1,000 if charged and convicted.
the law has already passed, as of last week. I can’t emphasize enough how scary this is for the trans community here. please keep an eye out for any trans people you may know in the state, and consider avoiding utah if you’re trans. this is beyond horrible for us here
and. some of you guys clearly never learned about intention vs impact. just because you did not have negative intentions with what you said to me as a palestinian does not mean that it did not impact me negatively. im not responsible to try and figure out whether you meant well or not. so if u send me a horrible ask and i respond to it horribly do not send me another one complaining about my response and talking about how i took your question the wrong way. im tired
There’s this perception on here among neurodivergent people that neurotypical social behaviour is all fake and arbitrary. That it’s a cruel, baseless game played to “weed out” ND people or to cause pain and complicate things on purpose.
This is wrong. All of those social rules and nuances ARE communication. Sorry if this is rude but it’s not the NTs’ fault if things don’t gel- the gap goes both ways. Just because communication doesn’t make sense to you, doesn’t mean it’s random or purposeless. Remember this post?
Every interaction in an NT conversation has purpose, and communicates something, and I don’t understand why nobody ever explains this to ND people. There’s information on basic stuff like facial expressions, but never what any of it actually means.
Small talk about the weather isn’t about the weather. It’s about how nice it is to be around the people you’re talking to, or feeling out their understanding of the world, or just saying that you’re both present and people and you’re being people together. It’s not literal. The words are, but the broad scope isn’t.
A conversation is not just an exchange of words, it’s an exchange of acknowledgement, attention, and emotional understanding. Of course it confuses people when their part in that exchange is met with flat affect or unembelished words. It’s like looking in a mirror and not seeing your reflection.
While this article frames them in terms of romantic relationships, I find that “bids” often appear in relationships of all kinds. We may interact with those bids differently or have different expectations related to bids depending on the kind of relationship we have with someone, but realistically, a lot of how we interact with each other in the world, especially fiddly little social cues and expectations, have to do with these!
The way we choose to respond to, prioritize, and make bids within our various relationships can have a lot to do with how connected we feel with others, how effectively we are able to communicate our needs and capacities, and how comfortable/secure we are able to be with others.
See also autism See also Ehlers Danlos syndrome & Fibromyalgia
It’s amazing how much more visible things become when you accept that they exist.
It is and always has been.
When you stop telling people how to behave outside of basic decency, and just let them be who they are with a supportive framework, it turns out they display tremendous variety and perfectly wondrous complexity.
We gotta pump those numbers up, those are rookie numbers!
I definitely make spaghetti sauce extremely wrong but I’m not going to stop
Chop 1 onion and put it in a pot.
Add 1 or 2 cans of diced tomatoes. Whatever makes the ratio of onion look right.
Add a ridiculous amount of frozen peas. Peas should make up a notable portion of this sauce.
Add frozen corn also if you wanna be real fancy. If I have bacon, I’ll add that too, but I very rarely have bacon.
Cook on HIGH.
While sauce is cooking, grab the nearest bottle of mixed spices that isn’t obviously for desserts. Add some. How much? I dunno, enough that you feel like you’ve added seasoning so it’s technically cooking. (For me this is most often a mix called Moroccan, but it could be anything. I’ve reorganised my kitchen recently so tonight it was something called Pizza Topping.)
If you happen to have green herbs lying around, add those too. Whatever you have on hand that’s green.
Let the sauce boil on HIGH until all the water is gone. Stir occasionally so the saucepan will be easier to clean later. Serve on cooked spaghetti noodles with no cheese.
Today I added a new step called “while the sauce is cooking, duck out for 15 seconds to post about spaghetti sauce on Tumblr, then get distracted and forget you are cooking.” This adds a novel Extremely Burnt edge to the flavour profile.
I am not Italian, or of Italian descent by *any* stretch of the imagination.
I am also not one of those “cooking purists”, who believes that everything must be done in a specific/ traditional way (unless you are making a cooking video with the title “how to make x” in which case if you don’t specify mid video that your way is not traditional god help you).
I am a firm believer in “If it tastes good, then it is correct for you”.
Except in this case.
This hurts every cooking bone in my body. The latent ancestors in my soul. The judgmental elf in my brain just bit a cyanide capsule.
Why? The spices. Using a different spice mix every time, based on what is ready at hand just … hurts.
Absolurl I deranged, Derin. Food crimes.
I don’t know what sweating the onions means
It means. It means you cook em a little in a pan with a bit of oil first.
A pan? How many dishes do you want me to have to wash here?
I mean you can also do it in the same pot you’re making the spaghetti sauce in! The important thing is the onions get a little cooked before the wet stuff goes in, so they’re not so wet and limp and boiled….
Honestly this depends entirely on whether I remember to chop an onion first or I find the can opener for the tomatoes first. The ingredients go in in whatever order they go in.
Derin who hurt you
A pack of wild chefs herded my mother off a cliff
Theres probably a hit out on you for this
What kind of stupid idiot would waste money assassinating someone who’s so clearly going to accidentally poison themself for free at some point
I have a disorder that makes me want to headcanon every nonhuman character with the ability to purr regardless if it makes sense for their kind or not. It’s called being right. With enough research i could justify a tree purring if i wanted to
big issue with linear time is that when there are a few minutes until some event and they aren’t enough minutes to do anything with, you just lose those minutes. I think you should be able to save them for later and then combine them into a chunk of leftover time that you get to use at the end of the day, like bonus hours.
Every queer person that has had to listen to their class/family/friends/etc. debate wether lgbt+ people should even exist or not should be given 100 bucks compensation. For each time. As an apology. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.
*Gets there and every audience area is perfectly wheelchair accessible but the stage itself is either impossible to access or only possible to access from the outside*
It fucking sucked that all the other kids were able to jump up from their seats straight to the stage and one kid had to go all the way around through the wood shop.
It fucking sucked that (different building) I was calling kid’s parents to the stage and one of the kids’ dads had to sit in front of the stage. There’s a whole elevator for the small set of stairs outside the auditorium but no access to the stage at all.
I’m not a wheelchair user so wheelchair users can tell me if I’m way off base but sometimes it seems like when people make a space accessible they’re thinking “how can we get gramma inside to have a seat” and not “how can an otherwise healthy young person who happens to use a wheelchair get themselves inside and use this building for all of its normal functions.”
[ID: A video clip showing a Black person in a green coat interviewing an elderly white person holding up a flag, with more protesters in the background displaying Palestinian flags.
The interviewer asks, “Why is it important for you to be here today?”
The protester responds, “Well, uh, I’m Jewish, I’m Israeli, my parents were the only survivors of their families from the Holocaust. They both survived Auschwitz. I’m not going to support genocide am I?
"I’m here with the Palestinians, and we are here with Palestine, because we don’t believe that what the British government is doing is correct. The British government is supporting this genocide! It’s arming Israel, it’s financing Israel.
"BBC and the other media here is supporting genocide. This is illegal. This is immoral. We don’t agree with it, we will never agree with it, and as Jews – and myself as Israeli – I am totally against it, and we will continue to be against it.
There are now more than 60 such events in the whole of Britain, uh, people don’t want to support this. They are against this government on so many other issues, but especially on this one.”
Another elderly white protester next to the first joins in, leaning forward to add:
“And, also, this didn’t start on October the 7th. In 1948, Palestinian villages, hundreds of them –”
Another elderly protester interjects specifically, “500 of them”.
The second protestor nods and continues, “were demolished, thousands of Palestinians, innocent men, women, and children were slaughtered, and seven-hundred and fifty thousand Palestinian refugees were created. That’s when it started, and it hasn’t stopped since!”
[ID: A video clip showing a Black person in a green coat interviewing an elderly white person holding up a flag, with more protesters in the background displaying Palestinian flags.
The interviewer asks, “Why is it important for you to be here today?”
The protester responds, “Well, uh, I’m Jewish, I’m Israeli, my parents were the only survivors of their families from the Holocaust. They both survived Auschwitz. I’m not going to support genocide am I?
"I’m here with the Palestinians, and we are here with Palestine, because we don’t believe that what the British government is doing is correct. The British government is supporting this genocide! It’s arming Israel, it’s financing Israel.
"BBC and the other media here is supporting genocide. This is illegal. This is immoral. We don’t agree with it, we will never agree with it, and as Jews – and myself as Israeli – I am totally against it, and we will continue to be against it.
There are now more than 60 such events in the whole of Britain, uh, people don’t want to support this. They are against this government on so many other issues, but especially on this one.”
Another elderly white protester next to the first joins in, leaning forward to add:
“And, also, this didn’t start on October the 7th. In 1948, Palestinian villages, hundreds of them –”
Another elderly protester interjects specifically, “500 of them”.
The second protestor nods and continues, “were demolished, thousands of Palestinians, innocent men, women, and children were slaughtered, and seven-hundred and fifty thousand Palestinian refugees were created. That’s when it started, and it hasn’t stopped since!”
It is impossible to achieve the goal of the war of eliminating Hamas by leaving four Hamas battalions in Rafah.
On the contrary, it is clear that intense activity in Rafah requires that civilians evacuate the areas of combat.
Therefore, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has ordered the IDF and the security establishment to submit to the Cabinet a combined plan for evacuating the population and destroying the battalions.
So just to recap, the area in question, Rafah, was meant to be the absolute last safe zone for Palestinians in Gaza where now over half of Gaza’s population has been forcibly displaced to.
We have been screaming that this is genocide and ethnic cleansing. At this point there doesn’t need to be any further evidence of it being both of these things.
There is literally nowhere else for these people to go to. They will either be pushed into the sea or be killed in the process.
What’s more is that not only does everyone know this, but Israel is aware that they know this. So what this announcement amounts to is their attempt to see if anyone cares enough to stop or at least challenge them.
I had a revelation and I HATE it. colorblind people wont get this post btw
[ID: a series of texts reading, “why are the interrobang and bangbang emojis different shades of red” “⁉️ ‼️” “do u see what i’m saying”. The emojis are slightly different shades of red and they’re also slightly different heights.]
I am experiencing a lot of antisemitism due to the ongoing conflict and I would like it to stop, please.
Buckle up folks, this is gonna be a long one, with a lot of re-blogged additions. Mostly because there can only be 30 images in a post at a time. And I have, uh, way more than that. This was part of an experiment I did with @thatmuslimlady-deactivated20240 (who I am devastated about being deactivated, by the way. Truly I cannot even find the words tbh. She is a bright light, and I hope she’s doing well.)
I know she deactivated her old blog because all the i/p stuff and the antisemitism and islamophobia was getting to her. Seeing as how none of those things has slowed down even a little bit, I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s gone again for the same reason.
However, our friendship and that history is exactly why I reached out to her via DM about doing this. Here was our convo:
And it’s true, B’‘H! She received a lot of support, visibly, from Jews as well as other people! Which brings me incredible joy. I am not surprised that she received support, as she is a lovely person. I am not surprised that Jews stood up and did what was right to defend her. Despite what people seem to think about Jews and how we think we feel about both Muslims and Palestine, I know we are not crazed beasts looking for Muslims to harm in the name of Israel (or whatever the bigots seem to think motivates us for hateful purpose).
I am (happily) surprised that there was not any hatred and (very happily) surprised that no Jewish people (or those speaking on behalf of Jewish people) said anything negative at all. Not because I expected any kind of horrid thing to take place specifically. It’s just that I don’t hold Jew to a different standard than any other group. I get people of all kinds being hateful to me all the time. There’s a lot of Jewish pain at the heart of this conflict, and I wouldn’t be shocked (saddened, but not shocked) to learn that some of us have allowed our pain to morph into hatred. And I’m not saying that Jews don’t ever do Islamophobic things all the time! I’m sure many Muslims and Arabs on this site have encountered bigoted and unkind Jewish people in their comments. I’ve called out some of those people! So I’m not trying to cast Jewish people as perfect angels who do no wrong ever, is all I’m saying. But I was very happy for my friend that she didn’t experience this, even when posting to #Israel and #I/P and #Palestine, as that seems to be where a lot of hate is festering right now. I reblogged her post and planned to link to it, but I can’t find the reblog on my dash. IDK where it went. Luckily, I do have the replies to her post saved. (I’ve tried to redact names wherever possible for obvious reasons, but have kept profile pix as those are not usually unique to specific users)
In the below post I’d like you to notice, a week after we both originally posted early January 15th, her note count was 332. Aside from reblogging and liking each other’s posts, neither of us did anything to promote or drive engagement with our posts. My note count at the time of making this post is 104 Notes. This is not an inherently good or bad thing. It just means more interactions with her than with m than me. And that would have been terrible if it included anything bigoted. But it didn’t, for which i am very grateful. (Also, note: many of the photographed users identify as Jewish in their usernames.
Her interactions looked like this:
and this
This is all fantastic. People coming forward to defend human kindness and to make the correct and uncomplicated assertion that being bigoted is always wrong. People coming forward to say loudly and proudly that they will police their own communities for bigotry and to ensure that it will not be tolerated. People coming forward offer support and an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. Truly the best that we humans can be to one another.
This was…very much not my experience.
Don’t get me wrong! I did get some love, and for that I am eternally grateful. This isn’t the oppression Olympics and we are just two people–neither of us are speaking for all Jews or all Muslims. But almost immediately, my end of things got…complicated.
So complicated, in fact, that I wasn’t able to post that night like I planned. I looked into my notes and was instantly overwhelmed.
And before I explain why, I just want to be explicitly clear: THIS DOES NOT MEAN I WANT MY FELLOW JEWS TO STOP SHARING MY POSTS OR WRITING TO ME WITH THEIR CONCERNS OR TO BE SILENT ABOUT THEIR PAIN WITH ME OR ANYONE ELSE!!!!
I simply wish to highlight the overwhelming nature of Jewish pain at this moment in our culture.
I always intended for this post to be included in my #The Antisemitism Experiment tag. I didn’t expect it to be a whole new aspect of the experiment itself. But it’s absolutely become one.
It wasn’t just that I received a tremendous amount of hate (which I did). It wasn’t just that it was violent and actively threatening (which it was). It was more than that.
It was that instantly–and I mean within moments of posting–my pain was removed from me entirely and became something else. I stopped being human. I became a theoretical subject or an object of hate.
Note: I am not obscuring usernames in this small section, because you can literally see the usernames in the notes of this post anyway.
You see, the first notification that i saw on this post after I posted it was this. Like…Immediately. Like this person was waiting to attack a sad Jew. (And no, please don’t send hate to this person, please. I never want anyone spreading hate, especially not in my name. This person is not the point anyway. The behavior is the point.)
TW: SUICIDE BAIT/DEATH THREAT
I screenshot this by reflex. I don’t know why. I felt the need to document it. It felt horrible enough that it had to be remembered I guess. But at the same time, I kept thinking to myself “Ugh. I don’t want this on my phone. Why am I keeping this horrible memory?”
Over the next week, @arabian-knight sent several more nasty messages to me, which I ignored. @dougielombax attempted to de-escalate on my behalf, which was kind. And I watched for a week a @arabian-knight and @dougielombax engaged in a debate about whether or not I and all Jews deserved to experience antisemitism and hatred and death threats entirely without my involvement. I wasn’t relevant because I wasn’t real, at least not to @arabian-knight. He was shadowboxing someone who did not exist and who was not a part of the conversation at all. But he also didn’t seem to see me, the actual human being who he dragged into the boxing ring and just fucking wailed on repeatedly. He also sent me some kind of horrible message in my inbox. It might have included a death threat or suicide bait–or it might have just been the garden variety “You deserve this.” I cannot recall. Because after seeing his initial messages, I decided not to engage anymore until the day I decided to compare my post to @thatmuslimlady-deactivated20240’s the following week.
After messaging her as shown in my last screenshot of our convo, I went to my inbox to screenshot @arabian-knight’s message to find it gone. As were all the comments he made on my post–at least to me. Because he blocked me. I never engaged with him at all. But he came into my space and harrassed me then he blocked me.
I was instantly so glad I took that first screenshot. IDK if his messages still show up in the notes of this post. It felt like the strangest, most invasive gaslighting. I spent a week ignoring constant horrific attacks on my person and on my culture and the moment I went to speak about it, the rest of the evidence vanished. I was so gutted, I decided not to do the post. It wasn’t going to serve the purpose I thought it would serve and I didn’t know how to move forward. I re-directed my energy elsewhere.
I suppose I expected a bit of that. The being hated and gaslit and threatened and dehumanized. It’d already been happening for a while.
But what caught me off guard was the horrible solidarity with fellow Jews. The things we have all gone through. The way the internet at large has ghettoized us in the digital age. The way we are all so isolated from one another and from our non-Jewish communities that surround us. We’ve become nothing and no one to anyone but each other and, only if we’re lucky, a few very kind Beloved Goyim who have kept our hope alive. Non-Jews who are very much the exception in The Jewish Experience, not the rule.
So I started looking through my notes more. And checked my (sorry) often neglected inbox. And when that all got overwhelming, I would go to watch a show I like or a YouTuber I like and find that they were spouting irresponsible rhetoric. Or I’d go to Facebook and see my IRL Jewish friends feeling openly miserable and everyone ignoring them. I’d go to text a friend about something unrelated or to see if they wanted to hang out or just share a funny thing from my day and ask about theirs all to be met with the same exact response: Nothing. Silence. It became very apparent that the vast majority of people I know have blocked or muted me despite never even bringing up Palestine with them specifically. A couple people respond to me vaguely and occasionally as long a it is the most surface-level possible subject matter. A “Hey! How are you doing?” was mostly unanswered and absolutely never reciprocated.
I’d go for a walk outside and see reminders about the war or overhear people talking about all Israelis being evil or how 10/7 was somehow justified “because Israel” (as if anything could ever justify such horror).
It is fucking inescapable. And I have wanted to scream at anyone who has suggested that I “step away” for “my mental health.” There is no away. Every form of escapist media I enjoyed most is now filled with people who can’t distinguish between Jew sand Zionists and Nazis. They’re filled with people who are A-OK with ethnic cleansing and mass expulsion of Jews, so long as those Jews are Israeli (and so long as those same people don’t have to answer the question of “OK, so were are these millions of Jews gonna go? What’s your proposal here? How will they bee kept safe?”). I can’t be with people I can’t enjoy modern media, because its become so stressful wondering whether or not the people who make that media actually want me dead.
I can’t keep from wondering if the people who are speaking out about Palestine (but not saying a word about bringing the hostages home or the bombs constantly fired into Israel or the sky high levels of antisemitism) are staying quiet about every single pressing possible issue that affects ANY Jew ANYWHERE in the world are doing so because they have actually decided to care about Palestine (which is good; they should) and are just a little single-focused due to the truly horrible scale of the tragedy–or because they actually think that (at best) Jewish suffering is unimportant right now or (at worst) deserved and necessary. There’s no real way for me to know. The only way that people can actually signal that they care about me as a friend or me as a friend or Jews ass a people is for them to actually say and do something to prove that. And it’s frankly fucking terrifying that I can count on one hand the number of non-Jewish friends in my actual real life who have done a single thing to risk letting anyone know that they (gasp!) are friends with a Jew on purpose! And that they (double gasp!) care about how that Jew feels. I can think of exactly two (2) people (plus my sister, who is not Jewish). Two. You know who you are, and I love you. The rest of my support system is people I’ve never met IRL, because they are the only ones who talk to me anymore. (And I could not be more grateful for you. You have no idea).
I can’t step away for my mental health, I can only stop talking for your convenience. And if talking is all I have left, you won’t take that from me too.
I’ve been reading Agatha Christie and Terry Pratchett books like I breathe oxygen, because they’re dead and if they were antisemitic, I don’t have to know. It won’t affect my present or inadvertently harm other Jews for me to enjoy their work.
So, as I perused the internet in the vain hope of escapism, I saw the other Jew like me. The ones who are invisible in the real world now and who are ghettoized digitally.
And you know what I did? I SCREENSHOT EVERY SINGLE INSTANCE OF SOCIETAL FAILURE.
I noted every single time I’ve seen a Jew cry out in loneliness and every single time someone wished death upon us or refused to listen to us or minimized our suffering or tried to steal and invert our tragedy, deny our history, and otherwise abuse and neglect us. AND I’M GONNA SHARE THEM.
Not all on this post, but in other reblogs of this post. And because I’m not a monster, I will actually put all but the first picture/row of pictures under a read more going forward.
But this post stays long. And it stays inconvenient to scroll past, because maybe–JUST MAYBE–someone will see this wall of text enough times to actually read it and internalize it and change how they behave. Or maybe I’ll just make some antisemites annoyed, and I’m personally fine with either. I’d prefer the former, but won’t be mad at the latter.
And once I do post the pictures, I can FINALLY delete the hate off my photo library. Hopefully it’ll run out. Hopefully you’ll all stop being hateful toward us. You’re all in control of how long this lasts, not me. Stop giving me and other Jews horrible experiences to share, and you’ll stop having to see this wall. But it’s gonna be awhile. Because you’ve done a lot of harm to a lot of people, and now I’m their megaphone as well as my own. Oh. And this is how many notifications I’ve gotten since I’ve started typing, I’m really hoping that none of it adds more info to screenshot:
And these are the folders devoted to all the times in which people have isolated Jews from their communities and threatened their safety.
ALT
ALT
And here’s the folder of Goyische support which I also plan to share. There aren’t as many photos in that one:
ALT
And in case you are one of the people who are determined to misinterpret this post:
I AM NOT A ZIONIST.
I AM PRO-PALESTINE.
THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT PALESTINE. NEITHER THIS POST NOR THE USER WHO WROTE IT DENY INJUSTICE FACING PALESTINIANS OR THE SUFFERING THEY ARE ENDURING.
THIS POST IS ONLY TAGGED PALESTINE, BECAUSE IT ADDRESSES THE ORIGINAL ISSUE OF JEWS BEING DRIVEN OUT OF PRO-PALESTINE ACTIVISM BY A COMBINATION OF ANTISEMITISM AND ERASURE.
SUBSEQUENT REBLOGS OF THIS POST WILL NOT BE REBLOGGED WITH THE PALESTINE TAG, BECAUSE THIS POST IS SPECIFICALLY ABOUT JEWS AND JEWISH SUFFERING ONLY.
Friends and allies: Reblog as much as you want. Keep sharing your stories. You are not alone in your pain. Future reblogs of this post will either be queued or scheduled. (I’ll never share personal identifying info without explicit approval from you or unless it was made available widely already.)
Reblog 2: The Jewish Experience
More Under The Cut
This is the only reblog I’ll do of this post tonight btw. For now just starting the process of showing you how reblogs will look.
I know more additions will be made to the post later but for now everything is transcribed under the cut. Sorry if I made any errors! (If someone wants to tag me when new additions are made I’ll do my best to transcribe everything!! I know this isn’t a lot but I hope it’s somewhat helpful.)
I am experiencing a lot of antisemitism due to the ongoing conflict and I would like it to stop, please.
Buckle up folks, this is gonna be a long one, with a lot of re-blogged additions. Mostly because there can only be 30 images in a post at a time. And I have, uh, way more than that. This was part of an experiment I did with @thatmuslimlady-deactivated20240 (who I am devastated about being deactivated, by the way. Truly I cannot even find the words tbh. She is a bright light, and I hope she’s doing well.)
I know she deactivated her old blog because all the i/p stuff and the antisemitism and islamophobia was getting to her. Seeing as how none of those things has slowed down even a little bit, I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s gone again for the same reason.
However, our friendship and that history is exactly why I reached out to her via DM about doing this. Here was our convo:
And it’s true, B’‘H! She received a lot of support, visibly, from Jews as well as other people! Which brings me incredible joy. I am not surprised that she received support, as she is a lovely person. I am not surprised that Jews stood up and did what was right to defend her. Despite what people seem to think about Jews and how we think we feel about both Muslims and Palestine, I know we are not crazed beasts looking for Muslims to harm in the name of Israel (or whatever the bigots seem to think motivates us for hateful purpose).
I am (happily) surprised that there was not any hatred and (very happily) surprised that no Jewish people (or those speaking on behalf of Jewish people) said anything negative at all. Not because I expected any kind of horrid thing to take place specifically. It’s just that I don’t hold Jew to a different standard than any other group. I get people of all kinds being hateful to me all the time. There’s a lot of Jewish pain at the heart of this conflict, and I wouldn’t be shocked (saddened, but not shocked) to learn that some of us have allowed our pain to morph into hatred. And I’m not saying that Jews don’t ever do Islamophobic things all the time! I’m sure many Muslims and Arabs on this site have encountered bigoted and unkind Jewish people in their comments. I’ve called out some of those people! So I’m not trying to cast Jewish people as perfect angels who do no wrong ever, is all I’m saying. But I was very happy for my friend that she didn’t experience this, even when posting to #Israel and #I/P and #Palestine, as that seems to be where a lot of hate is festering right now. I reblogged her post and planned to link to it, but I can’t find the reblog on my dash. IDK where it went. Luckily, I do have the replies to her post saved. (I’ve tried to redact names wherever possible for obvious reasons, but have kept profile pix as those are not usually unique to specific users)
In the below post I’d like you to notice, a week after we both originally posted early January 15th, her note count was 332. Aside from reblogging and liking each other’s posts, neither of us did anything to promote or drive engagement with our posts. My note count at the time of making this post is 104 Notes. This is not an inherently good or bad thing. It just means more interactions with her than with m than me. And that would have been terrible if it included anything bigoted. But it didn’t, for which i am very grateful. (Also, note: many of the photographed users identify as Jewish in their usernames.
Her interactions looked like this:
and this
This is all fantastic. People coming forward to defend human kindness and to make the correct and uncomplicated assertion that being bigoted is always wrong. People coming forward to say loudly and proudly that they will police their own communities for bigotry and to ensure that it will not be tolerated. People coming forward offer support and an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. Truly the best that we humans can be to one another.
This was…very much not my experience.
Don’t get me wrong! I did get some love, and for that I am eternally grateful. This isn’t the oppression Olympics and we are just two people–neither of us are speaking for all Jews or all Muslims. But almost immediately, my end of things got…complicated.
So complicated, in fact, that I wasn’t able to post that night like I planned. I looked into my notes and was instantly overwhelmed.
And before I explain why, I just want to be explicitly clear: THIS DOES NOT MEAN I WANT MY FELLOW JEWS TO STOP SHARING MY POSTS OR WRITING TO ME WITH THEIR CONCERNS OR TO BE SILENT ABOUT THEIR PAIN WITH ME OR ANYONE ELSE!!!!
I simply wish to highlight the overwhelming nature of Jewish pain at this moment in our culture.
I always intended for this post to be included in my #The Antisemitism Experiment tag. I didn’t expect it to be a whole new aspect of the experiment itself. But it’s absolutely become one.
It wasn’t just that I received a tremendous amount of hate (which I did). It wasn’t just that it was violent and actively threatening (which it was). It was more than that.
It was that instantly–and I mean within moments of posting–my pain was removed from me entirely and became something else. I stopped being human. I became a theoretical subject or an object of hate.
Note: I am not obscuring usernames in this small section, because you can literally see the usernames in the notes of this post anyway.
You see, the first notification that i saw on this post after I posted it was this. Like…Immediately. Like this person was waiting to attack a sad Jew. (And no, please don’t send hate to this person, please. I never want anyone spreading hate, especially not in my name. This person is not the point anyway. The behavior is the point.)
TW: SUICIDE BAIT/DEATH THREAT
I screenshot this by reflex. I don’t know why. I felt the need to document it. It felt horrible enough that it had to be remembered I guess. But at the same time, I kept thinking to myself “Ugh. I don’t want this on my phone. Why am I keeping this horrible memory?”
Over the next week, @arabian-knight sent several more nasty messages to me, which I ignored. @dougielombax attempted to de-escalate on my behalf, which was kind. And I watched for a week a @arabian-knight and @dougielombax engaged in a debate about whether or not I and all Jews deserved to experience antisemitism and hatred and death threats entirely without my involvement. I wasn’t relevant because I wasn’t real, at least not to @arabian-knight. He was shadowboxing someone who did not exist and who was not a part of the conversation at all. But he also didn’t seem to see me, the actual human being who he dragged into the boxing ring and just fucking wailed on repeatedly. He also sent me some kind of horrible message in my inbox. It might have included a death threat or suicide bait–or it might have just been the garden variety “You deserve this.” I cannot recall. Because after seeing his initial messages, I decided not to engage anymore until the day I decided to compare my post to @thatmuslimlady-deactivated20240’s the following week.
After messaging her as shown in my last screenshot of our convo, I went to my inbox to screenshot @arabian-knight’s message to find it gone. As were all the comments he made on my post–at least to me. Because he blocked me. I never engaged with him at all. But he came into my space and harrassed me then he blocked me.
I was instantly so glad I took that first screenshot. IDK if his messages still show up in the notes of this post. It felt like the strangest, most invasive gaslighting. I spent a week ignoring constant horrific attacks on my person and on my culture and the moment I went to speak about it, the rest of the evidence vanished. I was so gutted, I decided not to do the post. It wasn’t going to serve the purpose I thought it would serve and I didn’t know how to move forward. I re-directed my energy elsewhere.
I suppose I expected a bit of that. The being hated and gaslit and threatened and dehumanized. It’d already been happening for a while.
But what caught me off guard was the horrible solidarity with fellow Jews. The things we have all gone through. The way the internet at large has ghettoized us in the digital age. The way we are all so isolated from one another and from our non-Jewish communities that surround us. We’ve become nothing and no one to anyone but each other and, only if we’re lucky, a few very kind Beloved Goyim who have kept our hope alive. Non-Jews who are very much the exception in The Jewish Experience, not the rule.
So I started looking through my notes more. And checked my (sorry) often neglected inbox. And when that all got overwhelming, I would go to watch a show I like or a YouTuber I like and find that they were spouting irresponsible rhetoric. Or I’d go to Facebook and see my IRL Jewish friends feeling openly miserable and everyone ignoring them. I’d go to text a friend about something unrelated or to see if they wanted to hang out or just share a funny thing from my day and ask about theirs all to be met with the same exact response: Nothing. Silence. It became very apparent that the vast majority of people I know have blocked or muted me despite never even bringing up Palestine with them specifically. A couple people respond to me vaguely and occasionally as long a it is the most surface-level possible subject matter. A “Hey! How are you doing?” was mostly unanswered and absolutely never reciprocated.
I’d go for a walk outside and see reminders about the war or overhear people talking about all Israelis being evil or how 10/7 was somehow justified “because Israel” (as if anything could ever justify such horror).
It is fucking inescapable. And I have wanted to scream at anyone who has suggested that I “step away” for “my mental health.” There is no away. Every form of escapist media I enjoyed most is now filled with people who can’t distinguish between Jew sand Zionists and Nazis. They’re filled with people who are A-OK with ethnic cleansing and mass expulsion of Jews, so long as those Jews are Israeli (and so long as those same people don’t have to answer the question of “OK, so were are these millions of Jews gonna go? What’s your proposal here? How will they bee kept safe?”). I can’t be with people I can’t enjoy modern media, because its become so stressful wondering whether or not the people who make that media actually want me dead.
I can’t keep from wondering if the people who are speaking out about Palestine (but not saying a word about bringing the hostages home or the bombs constantly fired into Israel or the sky high levels of antisemitism) are staying quiet about every single pressing possible issue that affects ANY Jew ANYWHERE in the world are doing so because they have actually decided to care about Palestine (which is good; they should) and are just a little single-focused due to the truly horrible scale of the tragedy–or because they actually think that (at best) Jewish suffering is unimportant right now or (at worst) deserved and necessary. There’s no real way for me to know. The only way that people can actually signal that they care about me as a friend or me as a friend or Jews ass a people is for them to actually say and do something to prove that. And it’s frankly fucking terrifying that I can count on one hand the number of non-Jewish friends in my actual real life who have done a single thing to risk letting anyone know that they (gasp!) are friends with a Jew on purpose! And that they (double gasp!) care about how that Jew feels. I can think of exactly two (2) people (plus my sister, who is not Jewish). Two. You know who you are, and I love you. The rest of my support system is people I’ve never met IRL, because they are the only ones who talk to me anymore. (And I could not be more grateful for you. You have no idea).
I can’t step away for my mental health, I can only stop talking for your convenience. And if talking is all I have left, you won’t take that from me too.
I’ve been reading Agatha Christie and Terry Pratchett books like I breathe oxygen, because they’re dead and if they were antisemitic, I don’t have to know. It won’t affect my present or inadvertently harm other Jews for me to enjoy their work.
So, as I perused the internet in the vain hope of escapism, I saw the other Jew like me. The ones who are invisible in the real world now and who are ghettoized digitally.
And you know what I did? I SCREENSHOT EVERY SINGLE INSTANCE OF SOCIETAL FAILURE.
I noted every single time I’ve seen a Jew cry out in loneliness and every single time someone wished death upon us or refused to listen to us or minimized our suffering or tried to steal and invert our tragedy, deny our history, and otherwise abuse and neglect us. AND I’M GONNA SHARE THEM.
Not all on this post, but in other reblogs of this post. And because I’m not a monster, I will actually put all but the first picture/row of pictures under a read more going forward.
But this post stays long. And it stays inconvenient to scroll past, because maybe–JUST MAYBE–someone will see this wall of text enough times to actually read it and internalize it and change how they behave. Or maybe I’ll just make some antisemites annoyed, and I’m personally fine with either. I’d prefer the former, but won’t be mad at the latter.
And once I do post the pictures, I can FINALLY delete the hate off my photo library. Hopefully it’ll run out. Hopefully you’ll all stop being hateful toward us. You’re all in control of how long this lasts, not me. Stop giving me and other Jews horrible experiences to share, and you’ll stop having to see this wall. But it’s gonna be awhile. Because you’ve done a lot of harm to a lot of people, and now I’m their megaphone as well as my own. Oh. And this is how many notifications I’ve gotten since I’ve started typing, I’m really hoping that none of it adds more info to screenshot:
And these are the folders devoted to all the times in which people have isolated Jews from their communities and threatened their safety.
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And here’s the folder of Goyische support which I also plan to share. There aren’t as many photos in that one:
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And in case you are one of the people who are determined to misinterpret this post:
I AM NOT A ZIONIST.
I AM PRO-PALESTINE.
THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT PALESTINE. NEITHER THIS POST NOR THE USER WHO WROTE IT DENY INJUSTICE FACING PALESTINIANS OR THE SUFFERING THEY ARE ENDURING.
THIS POST IS ONLY TAGGED PALESTINE, BECAUSE IT ADDRESSES THE ORIGINAL ISSUE OF JEWS BEING DRIVEN OUT OF PRO-PALESTINE ACTIVISM BY A COMBINATION OF ANTISEMITISM AND ERASURE.
SUBSEQUENT REBLOGS OF THIS POST WILL NOT BE REBLOGGED WITH THE PALESTINE TAG, BECAUSE THIS POST IS SPECIFICALLY ABOUT JEWS AND JEWISH SUFFERING ONLY.
Friends and allies: Reblog as much as you want. Keep sharing your stories. You are not alone in your pain. Future reblogs of this post will either be queued or scheduled. (I’ll never share personal identifying info without explicit approval from you or unless it was made available widely already.)
“Go ahead autistic people put the chips that killed the monkeys we tested them on in your brain! It will Cure your Bad Brain Disease! I am absolutely not just saying inflammatory and untrue shit because I have lived so long in my own grift I’ve started believing it!”
for the love of god separate the word TERF from the man hating ugly dyke feminist you made up in your head. it is a group founded on the exclusion of trans women from women’s spaces, everything else grows from that ideology. it is not a word for when feminist theory makes you mad. it is NOT when women hate men.
if i have to see another person call a trans woman a TERF for saying she doesn’t like men i’m gonna start hitting people with axes
you will find TERFs who think transmasculine people are dangerous and need to be excluded. you will find TERFs who think transmasculine people are their sisters who need saving. you will find TERFs who are themselves transmasculine. you will find racist tradwife TERFs. you will find black lesbian TERFs. you will find TERFs who commit to political lesbianism. you will find TERFs who are quite happy to have a husband and work with fascist men. (a lot of those actually)
you’re not going to find transfeminine TERFs. because the foundation of TERFism is the exclusion of trans women.
taking words coined to describe the specific oppression of trans women and cutting us out of their definitions is transmisogyny. turning around and using those words against us is fucking revolting.
transmisogyny is not sparkling transphobia, it is hatred of trans women. TERFism is not Feminism I Don’t Like, it is TRANS EXCLUSIONARY RADICAL FEMINISM
also let me assure you that if you walked into a discussion of transmisogyny with “sex based oppression” on your lips you are 100% closer to TERF ideology than the person telling you that transmasculine people are capable of oppressing trans women.
way too many fucking people seem to think TERFs exist because the feminism’d too hard and accidentally started hating trannies. no, actually, transmisogyny is a foundational part of colonial and christian society and they shaped their feminism around it.
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