slavicafire:
sobbing into my plate after overhearing a conversation between a mom and her tiny daughter in this shopping centre food court
this one buffet type restaurant is away from the main food court, on the upper floor of the shopping centre - nearly no one goes there, so even in the wild rush of pre-christmas shopping, it’s fairly quiet.
it’s a mother with a daughter, kindergarten age. they sit at the table next to me, each with their own plate, having a quiet conversation. the daughter eats very quickly, stuffing her mouth, you know how kids sometimes do. the mother tells her, very softly:
“remember what we talked about? you and your tummy are a team and you have to be a team player! let’s make sure you chew your food well so it has an easier job later, and has enough time to tell you once you’re full”
the child nods, very serious and focused, because she has a very Important Mission now after all. she begins eating slower, chewing well, and additionally taking some time to Ponder the food on the fork before chomping a bit of the many different dishes she picked small portions of.
“what is your favourite thing from your plate?” the mom asks, and the child points to something on the plate. “why? what’s the flavour?” the mom continues, and the daughter replies, taking the time to describe the flavour and the texture, even though she “doesn’t know what it is at all but it’s yummy” and the mother smiles and explains to her what that food is. I think it was mozzarella, in the form of those small balls that work well for salads and appetizers.
once the daughter’s plate is empty, she looks at it a bit puzzled.
“are you still hungry?” asks the mom and as the child nods, she says “let’s give it a moment so your tummy can catch up as well.” - a moment passes - “still hungry?”
the child nods enthusiastically. “alright, let’s walk over to the buffet and we’ll pick something more”
“can you bring?” the child asks and the mom just says, smiling:
“no, because you should choose what looks like it will make you not hungry anymore. also, walking a bit will help your tummy understand how much more food you two need to feel full so you’re no longer hungry but you’re also not too full so that you feel uncomfortable or nauseous” and they went to get more food.
it might not sound impressive or interesting, but she was so kind and patient, and the child was clearly happy and curious and receptive to the information she was learning about her own body and how food works. none of “you have to eat the whole plate” under the threat of some punishment, none of “that’s enough, you’ve had enough, you’re not hungry anymore” none of “you’ll eat what I picked out for you and that’s it, no discussion.” I don’t know. I hope they had a nice rest of the day
