Santa is on strike due to global warming. All presents this year will be delivered by Sasha the Christmas Tiger. Milk and cookies may not be sufficient.
Santa is on strike due to global warming. All presents this year will be delivered by Sasha the Christmas Tiger. Milk and cookies may not be sufficient.
this meme made me realise that other people apparently know how to show empathy without personal anecdotes
… how…. please teach me
I’m pretty sure none of us will get answers but please…if someone knows the secrets to showing empathy without personal anecdotes please speak up. We need answers
(Me (adhd + autism) can show empathy, but not sympathy. For me, it’s like I do the exact same thing, but as well as showing empathy through anecdotes I show sympathy through empathy).
I have somethin I guess? I’ve been the Support Friend for most of my life so I managed to get it down to a formula. TW: dog death
1. Ask Questions
This is mainly to keep them talking, that way a) they feel like they have a confidante in you, and b) the pressure is less on you to Say Things. In fact it shouldn’t be about you Saying Things at all, it should be you figuring out where they’re at and trying to understand. E.g. “My dog died, I miss him.” Ask questions, and when they start talking, let them talk. “What was his name?” “How and when did he die?” “Tell me about him.” “What was he like?” “What’s your favourite memory of him?” “When did you first meet him?” “Did you teach him any tricks?” Again the point is to keep them talking, the questions are just to get them on a roll. If you’re worrying about what to say next, listen to what they’re saying and ask details of what they’re currently talking about, or mentally prepare your next question.
2. Listen
Let them talk. The more you listen to them talk, the more they feel like it’s okay to talk to you. If they dwindle off, ask them something else to get them talking again. Upset people usually have a lot to say.
Every now and again you can throw in little sentences like “Wow, what a bitch!” “Aw, so sad.” “What the fuck? Why?” just to prove you’re still listening and following, and haven’t wandered off into space.
3. When they’re done, give it back to them
It’s a technique called mirroring. Sum up whatever you heard in short form - if they’ve talked for half an hour about the little details of their deceased pet, say something like “It sounds like he was a very good boy/sounds like he meant a lot to you/sounds like you will miss him.” It’s been known to make people dissolve into a sobbing mess, because this is the part where you prove you’ve done your homework, you listened, you care, you get it.
4. If you really want to offer a solution, ask first. You can just skip this step altogether tbh.
Only when someone has finished talking about whatever is upsetting them, ask if you can help. “Can I offer some advice?” Now is the time for SHORT anecdotes. Short. It’s not about you sharing your story, it’s about them getting advice. Remember they don’t have to take your advice, again it’s about them and their emotions, and they know themselves best. “When my dog died, I did this. Would that help?” “I read somewhere about doing this. Maybe try that and see how it goes?”
Hope this helps y’all. The TL;DR of all this is basically listen, and prove you’re listening.
This is something I’ve been meaning to talk about, and I may do a full blog post at some point, but here’s a capsule version:
The Benign Violation Theory of humor, which is probably the best one out there, suggests that something is perceived as funny when it is simultaneously perceived as violating how the world “should” work and as benign. Something like the “gun” meme, for example, is funny because it violates our sense of how a joke should progress, and at the same time it’s harmless.
Racist/sexist/etc shock humor violates our sense of how the world work–in either a “that’s not true!” or “you’re not allowed to say that!” way–and therefore whether you find it funny is based on whether you find it benign, which is to say either you think it’s harmless or you don’t care about the people it harms. (This is the root of the punch up/kick down distinction–jokes that punch up are funnier than jokes that kick down because the people they target are less vulnerable and therefore less likely to experience harm.)
So yes, science agrees that if you think racist jokes are funny, the reason is that you don’t care about the feelings of the people the joke is about. There’s a word for that.
This humor is so fucking advanced yet so fucking simple at the same time
[image description: a comic. A molecule says “hello it is me helium. I am a noble gas”. Meme man, who’s dressed in a dark brown waistcoat and powdered wig, angrily asks “noble?” And puts the molecule in a guillotine. Cut to a nuclear explosion. End ID]
That’s a blue-tongued skink. They love chicken, but chicken nuggets are never okay because of how heavily processed they are and all the spices/flavoring. This bluey is probably okay after a single chicken nugget, but it’s definitely something that could make them sick if they eat too many or eat it too often.
Good news is that this is a [very good] photoshop and not a real image! The original image is by Silverfox on twitter, and was part of an art/photoshop challenge.
i’d be really curious to know what percent of queerbaiting is
a) an intentional marketing scheme to stir interest in the project and attract certain fanbases (lgbtq people and young women) vs.
b) members of the creative team genuinely wanting to write queer characters but the corporate side of things force them to tone it down but they still leave little hints vs.
c) they legitimately did not know how gay something would come across
The answer:
A is 100%. Because B and C are not queerbaiting. The literal meaning and definition of it is A.
Please tumblr learn the difference and stop shitting on good shows
Anyone who’s still not clear:
Teen Wolf show-makers asking fans what they wanted, getting the answer ‘canon-queer relationships’ and then just hinting at Stiles being bi and having the characters people ship hang out platonically is queer-baiting
Gravity Falls having the two male police officers hold hands and show genuine affection to one another, but not being allowed to confirm they were married because the studio wanted to sell the show to Russia and China is queer-coding
Arthur Conan Doyle genuinely not understanding why some people would think two men living together, declaring their undying affection for one another, and constantly referring to Holmes as a ‘confirmed bachelor’ was a bit gay is queer-subtext
How to get the burlap off me i was at the buddy race again and guess what well i fucked up badly again as usual which is getting normal for me because im starting to realize im a failure to society even if i low key dont even do anything wrong so any ways i crush my teams egg instantly with my heavy duty iron hands and also fell on a kid and crushed it sevearly before we even got the spoon and ppl started shouting and me and throwing rocks and me and giving me threats when it is literaly just a game and those werrent the only eggs i saw the other eggs and plus some stupid kid broke itd egg to and nobody gave a fuck about it so i guess they just have a problem with me inherantly maybe because of discrimiantion of my sexuality so any way i was hopping as fast as i fcking could away from the picnic but i was falling a bunch and fell on the highway realy hard and got ran over by 6 cars and 3 trucks and 1 huge truck and it hurt badly every time
“Israel’s Defense Military says its forces have seized about five million Israeli Shekels in cash (approximately $1.33 million) in their operations in the Gaza Strip, adding that the money would be put into Israel’s treasury.
🔴 Live updates: aje.io/ta7tnw”. [attachment: stock photo of a pile of Israeli Sheckle notes captioned “live updates war on gaza]
The Tweet is replied to by @/AShihipar which says "so they looted those houses”. End ID 1]
[ID 2: excerpt from the Geneva Conventions: “xvi. Pillaging a town or place, even when taken by assault;” End ID 2]
[ID: A tweet by Popbase that reads, “Nearly half of Gen Z is using TikTok and Instagram as a search engine instead of Google, new data shows.”. Below the tweet is a pic of a poorly drawn Goomba from Super Mario Bros with text below him that reads “are you out of your fucking mind”.]
I love how Gen Z is just slowly turning into boomers due to reverse tech illiteracy
There is a massive tech illiteracy problem among young people that is 100% caused by everyone using walled garden mobile devices instead of actual computers
“Isn’t it weird that [thing humans commonly eat] is poisonous to literally every domesticated animal” I mean, there’s a pretty good chance that [thing humans commonly eat] is at least mildly poisonous to humans, too. One of our quirks as a species is that we think our food is bland if it doesn’t have enough poison in it.
Humans have a really weird mix of mundane superpowers.
We’re not fast and don’t have a lot of natural weaponry but we’re bizarrely tolerant to a broad range of toxins to the point that one toxin is considered a morning necessity for some to perform at work. Gotta love us.
kids were roleplaying with minecraft figurines and one of them had their figure go up to the other and say “i’m in love with you” and the other one replied “sword slash to the chest. and you’re on fire”
Reblog if sword slash to the chest. Also you’re on fire.
STOP HAVING WHITE VOICE ACTORS PLAYING NON-WHITE ROLES
stop depriving non-white actors opportunities to act and get recognized!
Voice actors often don’t know who they’re reading for or what franchise they’re in (that’s what the strike was recently about, so they’d know whether they were in a small first time game or the 4th installment of a major franchise, if they were replacing a beloved voice actor, etc.) so please don’t harass the actors, until recently they legally didn’t have the right to know who they were reading for and were usually not told until months or even years later.
Definitely go after casting, directors, and studios executives. Those are the people making the decisions.
They still don’t have the right to know. They got fucking nothing out of that strike. They can know the code name (which might be a serial number or whatever) and if it’s a sequel. That’s it. That’s the extent of the “transparency” they won from the strike.
As a perfect example of this controversy, if you haven’t looked up interviews surrounding Laura Bailey as Nadine Ross, it’s worth it.
Laura Bailey herself explained that when she auditioned for the role, she was given no information about what the character looked like. It was only after she was hired and arrived for recording that she was shown concept art and discovered the character was a WOC. She was uncomfortable about the situation.
Meanwhile, Neil Druckmann revealedthat they were already working on concept art of the character when they hired Laura Bailey. They finalized the character’s design as a WOC after they’d hired a white voice actress, so that was a conscious decision. He was also very flippant about the situation as a whole.
Like people above have said: Yes, whitewashed casting is a legitimate and real issue. But unlike actors in film and stage, voice actors are often totally blind to what they’re auditioning for. They get fucked by NDAs and legal red tape bullshit. Go after the casting directors and execs and high-position game devs that knowingly make these decisions.
This reminds me of a time I got shunned on Tumblr for complaining that Shao Jun wasn’t voiced by an Asian VA. That was around 2013ish, so I’m glad people are being more vocal about this issue now.
truly just learn the phrase “I did not like this” instead of trying to give some moral or ethical reasoning behind why it’s actually evil and morally wrong and problematic. you are allowed to just not like things because they’re not good in your personal opinion, they don’t have to be problematic you can just not like them
putting “lying to kids is ok” on the table immediately looks bad. but theres nuance. because kids deserve to have as much context and respect as anyone else you live with. but also. telling them that leaving doors open will make ants carry away the entire house is necessary until their brains can quantify the heating&air bill
They have since left four premature babies to decompose on their beds. They have since kidnapped, stripped, tortured civilians and tried to frame them as Hamas fighters for their propaganda. They have since shot people at refugee camps execution style. They have since targeted academics and poets and directors. They have since killed 86 journalists. Still no ceasefire.
psa: i know that many of us did NOT doubt this for a second, neither did i. this is targeted at the people who educated themselves for the first time about this genocide and discovered the absolute horrific things that Israel is capable of doing to Palestinians, with the unwavering support of its allies.
Suha writes: when my sister was little, she used to pronounce amu (uncle) as abo and my uncle muneer thought it was the cutest thing ever. so it stuck and it was our collective nickname. we’d yell abo when we saw him and he’d yell back abo before we raced to each other’s arms.
abo was the spoiled baby brother of nine. his father died when he was a year old. when he was 8 years old, the zionist army shot him in the leg twice. he was one of the first children brought to the united states through @thepcrf to receive treatment, but he was never able to play soccer like the rest of the kids again. he lived with us for a while in the states before moving back permanently to gaza. his favorite movie of all time was blue streak and until the last time i saw him he would say “what you gonna do with one shoelace?” and i’d respond with “floss your ass?” we’d then spend the next 10 minutes quoting and laughing at his favorite lines. he’d always rent a fancy car and sneak us away from the crowded family home to take us to the newest popular shawarma and knafa joints in gaza city. i remember during one of those getaways he told me that my dad was not only his brother, but his father. he swore he would name his son after my father in accordance with our tradition of naming one’s firstborn son after their father. and he did.
today, abo was executed right before his mother’s eyes by the merciless zionist army. the soldiers raided our family home and forced themselves into my grandmother’s bedroom. she said he was trying to explain to the soldiers that she was his mother and no one was there when they suddenly and ruthlessly shot him in the neck. he exhaled a faint “يما” (mama) before collapsing to the ground. and that was it. he’s gone.
my devastated and heart shattered grandmother was not even given a chance to say goodbye. she begged them to let her take her son’s body with her. instead they expelled her from her house and forced her to leave her baby boy’s precious body behind. then they abducted her two other sons and her grandchildren.
A family of cheetahs sleep with the forest guard every night. When the Forest Dept. heard about it, they decided to check the veracity of the claim by installing a CCTV camera. This is what the camera recorded! Just amazing.
Digital illustration of a Black woman wearing a mask, plaid shirt and beige undershirt. Around her in a circle are germs and two little text bubbles that read, ‘mask up’ and ‘your disabled friends will appreciate it.’ There’s text around the circle that reads, ‘Tis’ the season for sneezin’’
Hey, everyone, This is Bisan from Gaza. I’m still aliveand these are some figures you need to know to know what the situation is in Gaza after 70 days of continuous bombing.
So, 25,000 children became orphans after they lost one or both parents in the bombing. Nine out of ten people cannot eat every day and people in Gaza lost 70% of the water before the war. By the way, even before the war, We had so many problems and so many issues with the water: It was not clean, not drinkable, it was not enough for washing or drinking.
More than 25,0000 were killed, either found or still under the rubble, 12,0000 of them being children. Yes, you can now tell what is happening. By the way, 22 hospitals are out of service, more than 100 medical centers are out of service, more than 100 ambulances are out of service, and more than 300 doctors or medical staff were killed.
You can’t survive this. You can’t have medical care, you can’t eat, you can’t drink. You can’t have anything in the Gaza Strip.
Hey, everyone, This is Bisan from Gaza. I’m still aliveand these are some figures you need to know to know what the situation is in Gaza after 70 days of continuous bombing.
So, 25,000 children became orphans after they lost one or both parents in the bombing. Nine out of ten people cannot eat every day and people in Gaza lost 70% of the water before the war. By the way, even before the war, We had so many problems and so many issues with the water: It was not clean, not drinkable, it was not enough for washing or drinking.
More than 25,0000 were killed, either found or still under the rubble, 12,0000 of them being children. Yes, you can now tell what is happening. By the way, 22 hospitals are out of service, more than 100 medical centers are out of service, more than 100 ambulances are out of service, and more than 300 doctors or medical staff were killed.
You can’t survive this. You can’t have medical care, you can’t eat, you can’t drink. You can’t have anything in the Gaza Strip.
This refers to something so convenient as to be unlikely, like a duck bringing its own onions to cook it with, and you may also recognize this as the basis of the Pokemon “Farfetch’d”, which is why it’s called that :v
after killing 8 NICU babies at al-shifa hospital and four NICU babies in al-nasr hospital and facing NO consequences at all, israel is now leaving another 12 babies to die in kamal edwan hospital in north gaza that was also evacuated at gunpoint (whose doctors were among the men stripped and photographed by the israeli military)
Just so you know, you would not believe the absolute stress this drawing has caused me in instagram. Those 200k meme content-farm accounts LOVE reposting this and it exposes my gay little art to the Instagram Masses and uh. According to them, it was AI garbage because the fish’s fin looks like “a foot” and the dog’s body was severely deformed (they couldn’t tell it was a dress). Let’s just say it’s a wonder I can still bear to look at it, let alone still be proud of it after thousands of people have called it an AI monstrosity while completely tearing apart every pixel to justify why they think that. Hell, some lady called ME a monster after being corrected that it was in fact drawn by a real breathing person. I’ve had people tell me “I just don’t understand how a sane person could think of this” and refuse to accept it wasn’t AI even after being linked to my profile. The funny thing is pretty much no one was homophobic except like maybe 2 people. They were too appalled by everything else. I just wanted to draw lesbian Ponyo.
Also Lil Nas wanted a print of it.
I wonder how many sea creatures look like mermaids to a dog
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