Job interview tip I got from a tiktok but it’s genius:
If you were unemployed for a while, they’re going to ask if you can explain the gap in your resume. Unless you were actually doing something cool & relevant, this is hard to answer in a way that makes you sound like a good corporate cog. So here’s the best and infallible answer -
No you cannot, because you signed an NDA.
You now sound mysterious, desirable, worldly, experienced. They can’t even really ask you more about it! Perfect.
This tip isn’t genius.
You can give general details even after signing an NDA, and the interviewer can absolutely ask about them. What type of work were you doing? What references can you provide for that time period? What sector was the job in? What skills did you learn from it?
If you’re going for a non-office job, claiming to have an NDA will sound weird at best and might make the interviewer decide you’re not worth the drama. If you’re going for a professional job, the interviewer will be familiar enough with NDAs to be suspicious.
There are plenty of reasonable excuses for a resume gap that won’t raise any red flags. You had a family situation which has now been resolved; you took time off to explore starting your own business but found you preferred working in a more traditional employment structure; you had a baby; you took classes; there was a fucking pandemic on. Your interviewer doesn’t care too much, they just want to know it’s something that won’t be a problem during employment (so no “I sent bomb threats to my workplace and that was when the case was ongoing”).
Please don’t learn professional skills from TikTok. Most of them are coming from teenagers who have no idea how interviews actually work.
i’m not the praying sort, but i’ll probably always have a soft spot for the astronaut’s prayer
for those who aren’t familiar with it, it’s a possibly-spurious quote by alan shepard (and is thus sometimes referred to as the shepard’s prayer) on the launchpad of Freedom 7, immediately before he became the first american in space. it goes like this:
sorry i cant go to bed i have to hang out with my friends online. yeah we’re all just posting at the same time. yeah this is actually the most important thing we could possibly be doing with our time
me: so you’re just going to leave me. just like everyone else
How dare you say that when she stayed with you till the end? When she gave you her all? Provided with joy as long as it was possible? Even though her time was shorter than yours, she did not abandon you. It was your neglect that caused her demise and yet she did not leave.
i learned of a 34-year-old Japanese mathematics professor who decided to host his lectures on… Pornhub.
His earnings of €250,000 per year stem from the fact that even though many may not be interested in the subject, they are nonetheless curious about his presence and attempt to watch the video, generating views.
Put salt in your baked goods. Put salt in your desserts. Just do it. Please. Salt isn’t just for savory, it’s literally a flavor enhancer so even a pinch can take a meh recipe to one people can’t stop eating. Listen to me. Your cookies and cheesecake bars are bland and uninteresting. I’m taking your hand. I’m guiding you with a gentle touch to the back. We can do this together. Trust me.
If you don’t know, applying for Fresh Start will move your loan status from “Default” to “Current,” you will no longer have to deal with collections calls! You won’t have your wages garnished or your tax refunds taken by the Education Department! The default gets removed from your credit and you become eligible for federal mortgage programs! You become eligible for Income Driven Repayment (IDR) programs that can reduce your monthly payment in a huge way (from $400/month to $50/month for me!) and you get IDR credit for the three years you were in default during the pandemic freeze!
It only has upsides!
I mean it, it can make a huge difference! You can even submit both Fresh Start and an IDR application at the same time. It takes literal seconds. I had my name legally changed and I’m still eligible! I clicked like 3 buttons, checked a couple boxes, and boom. I sent off the application August 22nd and I got the letter yesterday (Sept 20th), but that letter was dated Sept 1st and was only to inform me that my loan was no longer in default would be transferred to a new loan servicer by the end of the month. It took a week and a half to process.
I also became eligible and received a refund check for money taken from me during the starting stages of the pandemic.
every day I get on here and see some post going “do not make an account on ZYLPPHONE, the hot new social media! it turns out making an account gives the creators (who are nazis) instant access to your bank account and also causes your pets to explode!” and this is all very baffling to me because I cannot believe anyone is actually fucking around with new social media platforms that shit sounds exhausting. if tumblr ever gives up and goes all the way under I will simply turn into a crab and go back to the sea you will not be finding my on zylophone
I don’t like crucifixes where it’s ambiguous how Jesus is attached to the cross. I also don’t like statues of a tortured dying man, but the unpleasantness of that mitigated somewhat by seeing it so much. But this?
[Image description: an image of the new polyamory pride flag with high transparency, layered over a photo of a small black and white kitten touching their paw to a human’s extended index finger. Macro text in white all caps reads: Reblog this if you love polyamory or Hate the Government. Description ends]
So, apparently, there’s a new polyamory flag. And, apparently, this is how I learn of it.
Description: the main field is a tricolor of three equal width horizontal stripes; from the top down light blue, magenta, and dark purple. At the hoist (flagpole side) is a white, asymmetrical, chevron pointing to the fly (flapping-in-the wind side); the point of the chevron is at the boundary between the first and second stripe. Inside the chevron is a gold heart, with its pointed end aligned with the point of the chevron. Description ends.
Note one: I do love polyamory. I do not hate the government.
Note two: to the new Reddit refugees, memes that come to people in dreams is part of Tumblr culture. See also “BODE,” “adult form teletubbies,” and “There are many benefits to being a marine biologist.”
Person who has spent all their cash on rent and food still has a place to get out of the house and do something interesting.
Cool community classes and community art shows.
ESL tutoring.
Tax prep and forms.
tbh fuck anyone who says a single bad thing about libraries
Not content I normally reblog but libraries are super important and our world would be diminished without them.
The library was how I was able to read so many books as a kid that my parents wouldn’t have been able to afford.
Libraries are one of the only places on Earth that treats people the same no matter how much money you have. We can’t lose that.
And nowadays many libraries also rent ebooks, movies, and some even have tools. Many libraries have computer basics classes (I knew someone who taught those to older adults and every class, she would sit on a keyboard at one point, just to remove some of the fear of ‘messing up’ from her students).
There’s a library near me that uses their old card catalog for a seed library (you don’t literally return the seed that you borrow, you collect seeds from your plant and return those).
Some have rooms available to non-profits for meetings. Does your philatelist club need a place to meet? What about your caps for preemies group?
Some sponsor lectures, on information like local history. There’s a couple near me that have ‘meet the artist’ days where an artist sets up shop to show how they do their art. A crocheter friend of mine takes hooks and yarn to show kids how to do a chain.
Remember: WE PAY TAXES to support them. Use them.
I was a poor kid. Did not have access to much. But my parents got me a library card early and I spent my whole childhood there. Every dino book, every science book, heck - even VHS tapes on dinosaurs and science. I devoured them.
Libraries are gateways. I would not be a scientist without them. And the better they are - the more we fund and support them - the more doorways open up for everyone.
Protect libraries. Fund libraries. Knowledge is power, and libraries make knowledge available to ALL.
I did not grow up rich. I never had much pocket money to run around with. Public parks were the best place for me to hang out when I was young, but once I got too old for them, I had almost nowhere to go.
My sibling is alt-right and extremely hateful about his beliefs. He goes on tirades about liberal agendas and screams and insults me and our other family members when we attempt to debate with him. I live with him and being around him negatively impacts my mental health, especially with me being part of some of the groups he hates so much. I don’t know what to do. I feel so much hatred for him, but he’s my brother and we used to be close.
Members of the so-called “alt right” or “manosphere” actually bear very strong similarities to cult members - they become increasingly rigid in their beliefs, they have decreasing tolerance for ambiguity (everything starts to become either right or wrong, with no room for grey areas), they become increasingly preoccupied with “purity” of thought, their beliefs start to become the core of their personal identity, they accept the word of thought leaders without question or critical thinking, their relationships with family and friends deteriorate, and they often experience negative consequences at work or school as a direct result of their beliefs.
Dealing with a friend or family member who has joined the alt-right is very different from dealing with a family member who is dabbling with the idea of voting Conservative for economic reasons, or dealing with a family member who erroneously believes that Game of Thrones isn’t very good. Reasoned discussion and laying out your point of view will not work here. The tactics that you need to use with him are actually the tactics used to deprogram cult members, which includes things like:
Do not debate him. Never debate a cult member under any circumstances. It’s a complete waste of time for everybody involved, and it only serves to further entrench him in his toxic beliefs. Cult members do not approach debates in good faith - they are not open to having their minds changed, and they have no intention of ever listening to the other side. Cult members use debate as a tool to recruit people with possibly like-minded beliefs, or as a tool to gather evidence that the “other side” is delusional. The more you debate, the harder he will fight to come up with justifications for his beliefs, and the more satisfaction he will get from feeling like he is defending his “side” from attack. Shut down all debate with him. If he tries to start a debate, redirect immediately. If he makes an inflammatory statement at the dinner table, respond with something non-committal ( “hmmmmm”, “is that so?”, “okay” ) and immediately change the subject. Don’t get sucked in. No matter how hard he tries to open up a debate, deflect, shut him down, or walk away.
Treat him with detached politeness. I know that it is very difficult not to get visibly upset when someone is insulting the very core of who you are as a person and what you believe, but but you have to stay calm and detached here. Do not let him see that he is upsetting you. When he is going on rants about his beliefs, treat him like a child who is explaining the rules to a video game that you don’t particularly care about - have an air of detached boredom, and no matter how hostile he gets, respond only with politeness. Remember, part of the core beliefs he’s being fed is that people outside of the alt-right are “emotional”, and that his beliefs are “triggering” to those people. Give him no evidence to suggest that is true. Stonewall him. Give him nothing but bored stoicism in response to his outbursts. No matter how much he escalates or how horrifying his beliefs get, always act as though you are having a polite conversation about the weather with a stranger at Starbucks. If he tells you that women should should be property and gays should be killed, respond only with a polite “Well, I suppose that’s one perspective”, or “Yes, I believe you have mentioned this before”. Nothing takes the wind out of a cult member’s sails faster than being treated with calm politeness when they are expecting a fight.
Do not insult him or the people who share his beliefs. The glue that holds cults together is a persecution complex. Cults absolutely thrive on being persecuted for their beliefs, and they depend on it to keep members from leaving. “People outside this group hate you and they will treat you much worse than we will” is the message that keeps people from leaving hateful cults, all the way up until the Kool-Aid is served. He is being fed the message by his fellow cult members that he is hated for who he is - a, presumably, straight white man - and that “Liberals” hate him so much that they want to take away the things he is “owed” (money, power, security, etc) and give it away to undeserving minorities who haven’t really “earned” it. Give him no evidence to suggest that this is true. Refrain from insulting him, or insulting the people he views as thought leaders or role models. You can definitely express your political opinions and make it clear that you are not buying into your brother’s worldview, but keep things direct and refrain from personal attacks. If he is gloating about the president to intentionally get a rise out of you, a simple “I disagree with his policies” is all you have to say - launching into attacks about the president’s looks, family, mannerisms or intelligence is fuel for your brother’s hateful beliefs. Remember that when it comes to your brother, you are not acting in the role of a left-wing activist facing off against a dangerous right-wing activist with a platform. You are a concerned family member dealing with a family member who has gotten involved in a cult.
Ask polite questions, but do not engage directly with his beliefs. Do not read any of the reading material he recommends, listen to any of the podcasts he puts forward or view any of the videos he asks you to watch; it might be tempting to do so just to prove that you are engaging with him in “good faith” and that you have given his views an “honest try”, but this is a mistake. There is no such thing as “good faith” or intellectual honesty when it comes to cults, and there is nothing to gain from engaging in their propaganda. Do not treat anything produced or recommended by a cult as if it has value, because it does not. When he provides you with something he wants to you read, behave as though a young child has just handed you a live earthworm - thank him for the gesture, but decline to accept. Engaging with propaganda just legitimizes it, and gives him more ammunition to hunker down in his beliefs. When you do ask questions of his beliefs, be detached and polite. If he is ranting that all women are whores, ask him what the basis is for that belief. You are not looking to debate him or get a rise out of him - don’t fire back with counter-points, but make a polite, disinterested noise of acknowledgement, or ask for further clarification. You are merely looking for holes in his reasoning, or gaps where he doesn’t have evidence to back up what he says. You don’t need to point these holes out to him - there will be many. When he is unable to be specific, once again, make a polite acknowledgement ( “Interesting.” ) and move on.
Emphasize how much you miss your former relationship with him. Tell your brother that you miss him. Be specific - talk about the things that you used to do together, and the ways that he used to be involved in your life. If he tries to deflect and start talking about his beliefs again, or how he can’t be involved with you anymore because of your own beliefs or identity, don’t engage. Go back to talking about how you miss the relationship you used to have with him. If he insults you, pretend you didn’t hear him and remind him of a happy memory or a fun thing that you used to do together. It can take a really long time to have success with this tactic, but your brother does remember the relationship he used to have with you, and it is possible to remind him of what he is missing out on by continuing with his hateful beliefs. The idea is to take his beliefs out of the equation as much as possible - make him miss the relationship that he used to have. Any attempt at mending the relationship on his end will necessarily require that he get less extreme in his beliefs - it’s difficult to pursue a close relationship with someone and still insult them.
Remind him of normal life outside the cult. People in the alt-right - and other cults - tend to become hyper-focused only on issues that concern the cult, and begin to forget about normal life. Your brother is likely spending a lot of time and focus on things like the “sexual marketplace”, abortion rights, refugees, gay rights, female superhero movies etc. Bring him back to earth as often as you can with reminders of things that are outside the scope of the alt-right, and are minimally politically charged. Start a conversation about a new restaurant that is opening up in your town. Show him a funny cat video. Ask him if he’s seen a minimally controversial movie. Constant reminds of normalcy can gradually help him realize how hyper-focused he has become on a few small issues, and remind him that his worldview and priorities are incredibly skewed.
Protect your own mental health. Living with a cult member is exhausting. The combination of fending off the insults, being bombarded with hate rhetoric and missing the person they used to be is exhausting. Make sure you are protecting your own mental health. Take breaks. Leave the house and spend time with other people. Lean on friends and other family members for support. Take care of yourself. Getting someone out of a cult is a marathon, not a sprint, and it’s important to conserve your energy. It can take up to five years to get someone to fully leave cult beliefs behind. Be patient.
One of the hard parts about dealing with alt-right family members is that people make the mistake of approaching them as a political movement, when it is more appropriate to address them as a cult. The way that they operate is much more similar to the dynamics of a cult than the dynamics of a mainstream political movement, and deprogramming techniques are your best bet for getting your family member back. I highly recommend that you and your family read up on cults and the tactics used to get people out of them. It is especially helpful to read testimony from people who have escaped cults or successfully been persuaded to leave them - if possible, look for materials from people who have left the alt-right, and try to present this material to your brother. This is an incredibly difficult thing for a family to go through, and I highly recommend that you seek out other families who are dealing with similar situations - you are far from alone here.
I was thinking recently about how “alt” subcultures are so aestheticized now but they used to be much more about your societal views than the clothes you wore or even the bands you listened to, and my brain connected some dots. Idk if this is anything
its so fucking embarrassing joining a discord server like hii im a random asshole and heres my stupid attempt at assimilating into possibly years of injokes and personalities that i have to blind read and hope i mesh well with but for now ill just fucking talk to myself publicly in front of everyone i guess because nobody cares about what i have to say
NO NO NO TUMBLR I DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES WANT TO SEE WHAT MY MUTUALS LIKED. I WANT TO SEE WHAT THEY’VE REBLOGGED. IF IT WAS WORTH SEEING THEY’LL PUT IT ON MY DASH 37 TIMES
Thank you, everyone, who’s reblogged this 37 or more times in a row and my apologies to your feeds.
Tumblr glitch made me double post this, but it fits so it stays
I can’t believe paying minimum wage is like a culturally acceptable thing for bosses to do to their employees
if I came into work and went “nah, I think im gonna do the absolute bare minimum” I would be fired. we need to start firing bosses who only pay minimum wage. out of cannons
our friend’s daughter is at the age where she is extremely chatty and speaking in full sentences, and i love kids’ use of language.
apparently all strangers used to be “ladies,” but now they are “neighbors.” since they speak english exclusively at home, “neighbors” speak german; it was very distressing to hear her mom speak german once, because, in her words, “you’re not a doctor or a neighbor!”
When learning how to talk, each one of my 3 sons went through a phase where I was the only person they said “She” for. Obviously, SHE was Mom, and HE was the rest of the world
Three sons, and I was the only female in the household (dog was male too).
i love the idea of a mode of language where the human noun classification system is “one’s own mother” and “everyone else”
please can we do inbox trick-or-treating this year. can we make that a thing on tumblr. please please please please please
literally all it entails is sending people “trick-or-treat” asks and people answering those asks with pictures of candy or those silly spooky plastic toys or whatever else you would give a trick-or-treater. please. please can we have some whimsy
I will do this with various plants and rocks, especially if I have the energy to get through the lore I wanna write before Halloween
aita for not wanting to sacrifice myself to save the universe?
so, ok, its a whole situation but ill try to explain it. so i (21F, orchal) was born with these weird telekinesis powers BUT i was also the first orchal born on cantow so my parents (54F, orchal, 52F, orchal) thought it was just a side effect from the planets spores. anyways, so after the fall of illium and the assasination of asu-shu-namir my friend (20M, orchal) and i were forced to try to leave to pluto because were both trans and my friend was also a vigilante for asu-shu-namir so hes probably in line to get executed, so we stole a ship from the Tallarico family (and picked up one of their bodyguards (24F, human) that wanted to leave). we didnt make it to pluto but we did go to andromeda so thats nice (we also picked up an engineer (14MX, tsa'akak) from tsak). so anyway we did some stuff around andromeda for a few years, a lot happened that isnt really important here BUT after a while i found out through a thing haunting a friend we met on the way (???, concept and 8.14B M, t'eclean respectively) that im supposed to like. take over and be the god of reality and thats why i was born with weird powers. and everyones already resigned themselves to the fact that im gonna have to take on this great task (im not dying but its basically like dying cause ill be asleep for trillions of years) but i REALLY DO NOT WANT TO DO IT. ive been trying to work out a way to avoid this responsibility but i havent found anything yet. i know that if i dont theyll have to condemn someone else and if it takes too long reality could begin to crumble but i cant leave my friends. ive worked so hard for the life i have now i cant just give it all up. i know i wont die but this choice doesnt feel any different from just sacrificing myself. im scared, and i know i have to, and i dont want to, and im ready to do ANYTHING to avoid this responsibility, even let reality itself die. so, aita?
As a bisexual, it sickens me that some people WILL keep scrolling.
I’m probably gonna have the creepiest, gayest, and awesomest graveyard wedding one day. So yeah.
I support them
Honestly, even those who don’t agree with people being gay should shut the hell up. You live your life the way you want, and let other people live their lives the way they want. So ye, even if you don’t agree with gay people(which in of itself is dumb), it is even more dumb to get mad at others for it
